Name Yourself!

ParentInfluence What Will be your Grandparent Name

Think of who you want to be in the future; what you want to convey to those who meet you, and how you want to see yourself as you age, or fight aging.  What if you had the chance to reinvent yourself while still maintaining the essence of “you?”  Well congratulations!  When you hear you are going to become a grandparent, you get to join the ranks of celebrities and those in witness protection by taking on a new identity, complete with a new name. And it won’t cost you a thing or raise a single eyebrow.

What will you choose to be known as when you become a grandparent?

There will be, of course, blankets to crochet, shower wish list items to buy, Shutterfly accounts to create, but your first and biggest task is to choose your grandparent name. This new child and any to follow will know you as this, as eventually will their friends, teachers, heck, even the mailman should he not be replaced by a drone with a mailbag.

Because I tend to put more importance on things some people find trivial, I worked on and worried about this for several months when the first of my four daughters was pregnant. Getting this right was vital. Whatever that child called me, like it or not, would be what every new child in our family would call me, as well. Take this into your own hands, people! You would not believe the guttural utterances that come out of some babies’ mouths as they look your way and point. You could be known for eternity as Mulgblat.

I imagined what horrors could befall a vibrant young woman who became known by an ill-fitting grandmother name.  One day you are “Mom,” confidently swinging your expertly dyed roots while walking runway style in the perfect jeans as you pull the money from your designer purse to pay for your trendy organic plantain chips at Whole Foods. The next day you are “Granny,” shuffling in her polyester elastic waist pants and sensible shoes to the Walmart checkout complaining about the new ice-cream box designed to hide that there’s less in there! I admit it, I was scared, and sure I could avoid these perils by just picking the right grandparent name.

ParentInfluence What Will be your Grandparent Name

To begin this process, see what will not even be available to you due to grandparents that already exist and family traditions that have been passed down regarding certain names. If there is already a beloved Nana, you will not want to be “other Nana” or “Nana Smith.” If your heart is set on MomMom but every grandmother on the other side of the family has for generations been called MomMom, let it go. You are not trying to divide an extended family here, but build one.

Next make a list of all the names you like (and yes, you can make them up as long as you can accept they will never appear on a Hallmark card) and picture what someone with that name would look like. The one that lit a spark in me was Mimi. I saw someone fun and energetic, loving and cuddly, singing, dancing and laughing.  I saw future me! I talked with my pregnant daughter, and all the not-yet-pregnant ones, and my new identity was forged. That was almost twelve years ago, and now five little people, all the big people in earshot, and a few teachers and coaches call me this.

The other day I heard “Mimi” yelled down a store aisle, and I did the fast turn we all do when someone yells “Mom!”  New self, embraced!

About the Author – Diana Fox

Diana is a former early childhood educator who loves writing, all needlecrafts, playing the harp, and just being silly with her large family. She enjoys traveling, then returning to her country life in New Hampshire with her husband, collie, cat and chickens.

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Brandy Ellen is a lover of motherhood, life and pizza. She spends her days writing in her office and managing websites with her man: RetweetChores, Tacks.io & Roundups.io . During her free time she can be found Tweeting, networking on Facebook and playing Minecraft with her family. Co-Author with her daughter, Positive Girl – The Power of Your Thoughts , Brandy firmly believes that a positive attitude can take you a long way. Words matter, choose them wisely.

What will you choose to be known as when you become a grandparent?

6 Replies to “Name Yourself!”

  1. We thought about those issues when choosing our daughters’ names. We tried to imagine them on a resume, and how an employer would look at it.

  2. We gave careful consideration to our kids’ names. Of course, we wanted them to have great names, but we also wanted names that would pass muster in the world.

  3. mistywright271471215 says: Reply

    I worried about what to name my daughter for so long. We had it down to 2 names for months and still could not decide.

  4. This is all so true! I know that I will never be a grandma because of my daughter’s disabilities and I am not going to have anymore but I thought about being a mom and I definitely love hearing “Mom!” or even “Momma”.

    Names are absolutely important- I gave my daughter a classic name that can age nicely with her! Great and thoughtful post!

  5. This was easy for our parents. My husband’s parents were already Nana and Papa and we had already planned on my parents being Grandma and Grandpa so this was easy. My grandparents are Bubby and Zaidy because they are Jewish. When it’s my turn to have grandkids (hopefully a long way off!) I hope to be Grandma. I don’t like any of the alternatives for me personally, they just don’t sound right.

  6. Ah, names are so important, and heavy, huh? I know that I put a lot of thought into the names of my children, and how they would sound being called. I do know that society can be quite tough on names they feel don’t vibe with their point of view, but I figure all names have great stories and wonderful meanings!

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