How to Control Pregnancy Hormones in First Trimester

Pregnancy is a stressful time in life as it is. You feel a range of new emotions and the realization that your life is changing is overwhelming. Pregnancy brings about exhaustion stress and hormonal changes that affect your mood.

In addition to hormonal changes some very important questions bother young mothers-to-be. They wonder whether they will be good parents, whether they are doing it all right, whether they will be able to manage financially.

The period when your mood swings are the most prominent is the first trimester, in particular first 6-10 weeks of your pregnancy.

How to Control Pregnancy Hormones in First Trimester

How to treat mood swings?

You should be well aware that many women have been in your state before and have experienced these mood swings. What you are feeling and experiencing is normal, but it doesn’t mean you should just live that way.

How to Control Pregnancy Hormones in First Trimester

Get plenty of rest

Fatigue is one of the reasons you get your mood swings. So sleep well, rest a lot and you might just be able to cope with them. Put unnecessary chores away and concentrate on pampering yourself instead.

How to Control Pregnancy Hormones in First Trimester

Spend time with your partner

Reassuring your partner of your love and connection and being constantly reassured in his love to you will help you move a step closer to emotional and mental sanity during the pregnancy. Spending time together strengthens your relationship, which will affect your life after the baby is born in a very positive way.

How to Control Pregnancy Hormones in First Trimester

Do more of what makes you happy

Spend time with your partner, friends or just some alone time with your hobbies. Be sure to spend time doing something for you that will affect your mood swings in a very positive way. After all, you should keep you happy and calm and this will keep your emotions at bay.

How to Control Pregnancy Hormones in First Trimester

Keep talking

Understand that your partner is going through a big change in his life as well and you both should talk about it and share your concerns. This will keep your relationship healthy and in the end you will not have any unpleasant surprises.

How to Control Pregnancy Hormones in First Trimester

Exercise

It is known that exercising can help deal with stress. During the early stages of the pregnancy there are not as many restrictions as to sports. You can do yoga, go jogging or do some simple sets of exercises. Physical activity makes you feel better about yourself and this is always great! Be sure to clear physical activity ideas with your OBGYN first.

How to Control Pregnancy Hormones in First Trimester

What to do when your mood swings don’t go away?

Sometimes the periods of depression can last for weeks, and in these cases it is advised to seek professional help. Clinical depression is a common thing in women during pregnancy and the first months after childbirth. In such cases it should be treated medically. Some symptoms that may tip you off about your depressions: anxiety that doesn’t go away, sleep disorders, memory loss, short attention span, eating habits disorder.

On the early stages of pregnancy it is important to take care of your health to ensure that both your physical state and your mentality are sound and nothing threatens your baby and your relationship with people around you.

Dealing With Unplanned Pregnancy

For most pregnancy and childbirth is a joyous event, as they have planned for it, coveted the thoughts of having children and are sure that this is what they want in life and this is something they can afford at a certain stage.

However, there are times when pregnancy comes unexpectedly. Despite all the measures one might be taking to prevent it, pregnancy is still possible. And it always is a shock. When you find out you are pregnant you have many questions swarming in your mind. And quite often you do not know what to do. If you are single and don’t have your husband or boyfriend to rely on it gets even more difficult. And to deal with these new emotions and this life-changing condition you should follow a certain set of steps.

Dealing With Unplanned Pregnancy

Step One: Immediate

First, you should visit a doctor for confirmation. Before you make a decision as to what to do next you should know that your habits might hurt the baby, so you should stop smoking and drinking alcohol, stop taking any medications that haven’t been cleared by your doctor and start taking care of yourself.

Next, you should ask yourself, and discuss this with your partner if you have one, how you can get ready emotionally, financially and physically for this child?? How will you mix your career with being a mother in the future? What will have to be done before the child is born? How will having a child affect your family and do you have people who will be there for you throughout the pregnancy and raising a child?

Dealing With Unplanned Pregnancy

Step Two: Decision

After you have evaluated thoughts, what needs to be done and how you will start to prepare for this child, you can move forward in this pregnancy. If you do not have a partner, create a support network of people who will be there for you in your time of need. Newlyweds usually need some time after the wedding to bond and get closer. Before the arrival of the child try to spend most time together and strengthen your relationship. When the child is born the attention is primarily on him and raising him, so the spouses who are not sure of their relationship may feel further away from each other.

Find people who have gone through what you are going through and talk to them They might have some great helpful advice for you! Remember, you are not alone! And soon, there will be even more people who love and cherish you!

Dear Sons, I love You

To my dearest sons, Aj and K-man, you are a part of my heart just like your sister. I will forever love you without conditions and be there to help you through all difficulties in life. I will be your cheerleader when you succeed and your Mama Bear hug when you don’t. I will try to let go of the tension that occurs when you try to do a 360 off of a picnic table and I will be here to listen when you want to share your thoughts.

I will forever do my best to better understand the mind of a young boy and continue to learn about boys through watching you grow. I know sometimes we clash and at times you think I don’t love you, but never in a million years would my love stop for you boys. You, my dear sons, are my heart and I love you dearly.

Sure we won’t see eye to eye and sometimes my Mama ways will interfere with your youthful boyhood, but I always have your best interest at heart and will continue to do my best to support you and step back when necessary. My dearest sons, I love you more than words will ever express and I am grateful to be your Mom for it’s a blessing that some people don’t get.

I know sometimes we clash and at times you think I don't love you, but never in a million years would my love stop for you boys. You, my dear sons, are my heart and I love you dearly.

I will forever do my best to better understand the mind of a young boy and continue to learn about boys through watching you grow. I know sometimes we clash and at times you think I don’t love you, but never in a million years would my love stop for you boys. You, my dear sons, are my heart and I love you dearly. You, my dear sons, are my heart and I love you dearly.

Love,

Mama

Ways to Deal with Children With Social Anxiety

If you are wondering if your child might suffer from social anxiety, then read below to see if your child fits. Social anxiety in children is a fear or phobia related to struggling interacting with others or being the center of attention. Children might become quiet, extra shy, do not voice their fears or issues they might be feeling, and even cry and ask to leave.

Social anxiety is real, and your child might even begin to feel nauseated, complain of stomachaches when out, headaches and more. Your child can learn to overcome these fears, below I will share some ways to deal with your child and their social anxiety!

These tips can help your child to work through and overcome their social anxiety over time. It is very normal for children to go through a phase of being shy, and they normally grow out of it.

Ways to Deal with Children With Social Anxiety

Managing Social Anxiety in Your Child

Teach Child About Social Anxiety: If you find that your child might be suffering from social anxiety, take time to talk with them. Explain that anxiety is normal and we all experience it in our lives. Our body is feeling like we are in danger, but there is no danger present, with social anxiety.

Don’t Downplay Their Feelings: Social anxiety is very real, and those fears can’t be turned off instantly. Do not downplay your child’s feelings, or force your child to do something or talk to someone if they don’t want. It can be frustrating for the parents, but don’t get upset of your child because they are fearful in social settings.

Empathize or Sympathize: If you have struggled with social anxiety you can sympathize with your child and tell them how you overcame. If you don’t have any experience with social anxiety, then empathize when them. Listen to how they feel when they get around big groups, and be supportive. Teach them that by breathing deep, and  slowly trying to talk here and there can help them to overcome the hurdle. Then maybe they won’t feel so anxious.

Play Dates: Start small by inviting a friend over for your child to play with. Then once they feel comfortable, maybe try having a play date at their friends house. Go the first time if your child feels anxious, and slowly work towards leaving them alone at the play date. This can help them work towards overcoming their anxiety. It is a slow process but in time you will see improvement.

Go Places: Take your child out and go to the library, park, or somewhere else they enjoy. Then let them learn to play or do an activity without you right next to them. Start small by standing behind them, then take a few steps back. Just let them know that they can’t sit on your lap, and just communicate along the way. Don’t just go hide, because if they can’t see you they will panic. Just keep the communication open. Maybe the 2nd or 3rd visit, say you are going to go sit on the bench and show them where it is at. They can still see if they need you.

Just remember this could take time for your little one to feel comfortable. After a little while you might see some good improvement. So be patient and just know they will overcome it.

About the Author

Kelsey is a freelance writer for bloggers! A country girl from Kansas, who enjoys spending time with family! You can see what Kelsey has available for content in her Facebook Group.

I Saw, I Fell!

Do you believe in love at first sight?

I did as an emotional teenager.  I watched old Hollywood musicals on TV, read Wuthering Heights with a tear-streamed face, and knew the words to every sappy song on the radio.

Then I didn’t.  We understand a little more about love as we get older, and as we realize that songs, books and movies only play with our emotions for a little while as we form our real lives, we understand that real love builds over time. That’s why they’re called relationships. Because we need time to relate in order to build love.

One writer at ParentInfluence shares her story of love at first sight, with her first grandchild.

Now some may argue that love at first sight is that special feeling mothers have at childbirth, but I say no! Love at first sign of a bump; surely love at first kick, but the love is there well before first sight. Personally, I felt love at first wave of nausea and bloat, but I was crazy about pregnancy, so that’s just me. Being pregnant is a nine-month mini relationship with your baby before you meet. It’s kind of the internet dating portion of parenting, and birth is the first actual face to face meeting. So unless a mother is telling her adoption story, I’m going to argue against love at first sight with your own child.

No, I was sure love at first sight was a romantic myth. Until I experienced it when I met my first grandchild. I was there when she was born, and when the excitement, relief, fatigue, and all the other emotions that accompany a birth subsided and I was home in bed that night, something happened to me that I had only even heard of once or twice. When I closed my eyes, I could see her face. It was as clear as if she were in the room…so clear I couldn’t sleep, or even relax. Her image was on the back of my eyelids, my heart was pounding and I had this feeling of complete joy! I knew I would never be the same, as I now had this new love, which was more intense than I could have imagined.

This was over eleven years ago, and I can remember the event as perfectly now as I did that night. In some ways, it is clearer than the memory of the birth itself, and here is why: You don’t just become a grandmother. The prerequisite is that you are a mother. That same mother that fell in love with her baby in utero, who saw her face at birth, is now still parenting; though with an adult child.

During the pregnancies of your children, you are very excited for the coming baby, but you are still viewing this event through the mom lens.  You worry about the health of your daughter or daughter-in-law. You fuss over details as you help the new mom get ready. In the delivery room, you are excited, but worry about the medical aspects and the pain and anxiety she is going through. This is the birth of HER baby, HER experience; and you are thrilled for her. You are a happy mom of a parent. You make sure everyone is fine, stay out of the way so bonding of the new family can take place as you breathe a sigh of relief. Then it happens… the baby is looking at YOU. For the first time, it’s just the two of you.  And a love is born. Right there…at first sight.

One writer at ParentInfluence shares her story of love at first sight, with her first grandchild.

I now have five grandchildren, and each of these relationships are unique, as they should be. There are days I feel that the love we have is the most amazing bond there is, and days I worry we are not as close as I would like. I will always remember with awe, however, the day I became Mimi.

About the Author – Diana Fox

Diana is a former early childhood educator who loves writing, all needlecrafts, playing the harp, and just being silly with her large family. She enjoys traveling, then returning to her country life in New Hampshire with her husband, collie, cat and chickens.

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Father’s Day DIY Gifts

Father’s Day is just around the corner and with that comes the need to try to create some cute homemade gifts for Dad. Whether you are getting your little one ready to get crafty for Dad this Father’s Day or seeking out a little way for you both to make something together, this list should get you started:

15 Fun DIY Father's Day Gift Ideas

Father’s Day DIY Gifts

1. DIY Fishing Lure

2. DIY Coffee Mug

3. Lego Business Card Holder

4. Stepping Stones

5. Handprint Sun Catcher

6. Craft Stick Frame

7. Father’s Day Nut Jar Lable

8. Superhero Bookmarks

9. Father’s Day Footprint Coin Dish

10. Fun Father’s Day Cards

11. Father’s Day Scribble Mug

12. Photo Key Chain

13. Photo Ornament

14. Father’s Day Painting

15. Father’s Day Paper Weight

Well there you have it 15 DIY Father’s Day gift ideas. What are you waiting for? Go on … go get crafty with those kids and make Father’s Day a memorable event!

Different Ways to Teaching Siblings to Get Along

Teaching siblings to get along can take some time, but with a few tips and tricks you can achieve this goal! Sibling rivalry is a real thing, and sometimes it is very hard for children to see eye to eye.

Nothing beats growing up and your sister or brother becoming your best friend. Someone you can count on and trust fully! Below are ways to help teach your children that they can be friends with each other!

Tips for Teaching Siblings To Be Friends

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Tips for Teaching Siblings To Be Friends

Role Model: If you have siblings yourself, you know that sometimes you might not see eye to eye, but you still have to be respectful and loving. Lead by example, as your children will watch how you act with your brother or sisters. So make sure to show family is important, spend time with them, and always talk in a positive manner.

Positive Praise: Make sure to focus on each child’s strengths! If one child does great at sports, compliment them. If the other is very artistic, praise them on their masterpieces. Make sure that you are sending out positive praise for their unique talents. This will show your children that they are each good in different areas and that is great.

Don’t Compare: Don’t compare your children in a negative way. Don’t say, “Arnold is so great at running the 50 meter dash, if you tried harder you could  be just as good or better.” That is a way to create fights between your children. No matter what the instance is don’t compare.

Sharing: Make sure your children learn how to share their toys and electronics. By taking set turns it teaches them that all things are equal. You can set a timer and for that set time they can play or watch their show on tv, and then when it goes off it is their siblings turn. This is a great way for them to learn how to share and it shows no favoritism.

Kindness: Teach your children manners and being kind to each other and everyone else. Learning to say thank you, and do kind task for others is a great attribute in children. You could go around the table at dinner and share something they appreciate about one another, this is a great way for your children to see that they do love each other.

Personal Time with Mom and Dad: Make sure you give each child set time where it is just you and them. Take them out for dinner, go get donuts, head to the park, whatever they enjoy doing. Making sure each child gets time with the parents alone lets them know they are special and you value them. Do this with each child on a regular basis. Letting your children know how much you love them is so important, and they won’t feel they have to fight for your attention.

I hope these simple tips can help. It takes some kids longer to get along, and some love each other from day one. Just love your children equally and speak positive praise over each one, and work at showing that their siblings are special too, and in time they could become best friends.

About the Author

Kelsey is a freelance writer for bloggers! A country girl from Kansas, who enjoys spending time with family! You can see what Kelsey has available for content in her Facebook Group.

Things I wish I had Taught my Daughter

As I get further into the life of raising a teenager, there is a lot of things that come to mind. For instance, while I feel I raised her pretty darn well and so far she has a great head on her shoulders and doesn’t fall prey to peer pressure, there are some things I wish I had taught her. I covered the basics like using your manners, folding laundry, washing dishes, being a kind soul and learning how to read a person based on energy to determine if they are good or bad. I raised her to have hope beyond anything else and to know that hope sometimes is all we have to move forward and remain positive. Sure I taught her a lot that I am proud of but here are just a few things that I wish I had taught her and hope time has not run out for them.

Things I wish I had Taught my Daughter

Chivalry Is Good

For a majority of my daughter’s life I was a single mom. I started off on state assistance as a 21 year old single mom when she was about four months of age. I had no money, I had no job and I wasn’t even sure how I was going to survive, I ended up in subsidized housing and I was on state assistance for a period of time. With that being said, my daughter never learned that chivalry is good. She instead learned that being a strong, independent woman means that men can’t offer anything. That having a man hold the door open for you is a sign of weakness. That having a man do things to help you is a sign of weakness. There are many things about my inability to teach her that chivalry is good due to the circumstances of her upbringing that I now wish I had been able to teach her.

Crying is Okay

For many years I held back tears, if I had to cry I would do so behind closed doors and away from her seeing me cry. This daughter of mine grew up seeing my strengths but rarely my weaknesses. Sure she saw me when I lost patience and she saw me make some mistakes but she rarely saw me cry. I fear that I never showed her that crying is okay and doesn’t make you weak.  I find myself now telling her to cry it out, just let those tears flow because while she didn’t grow up seeing me cry much, I did cry a lot. I use crying as a means to move on from emotional situations and it helps refresh my soul. I hope that I am not too late to teach her that crying is a safe way to release emotions.

Getting Help is Okay

I rarely had help with her growing up, this is not to say she didn’t have an involved Dad, for we share custody of her, but when she was with me the idea of me getting help was something I rarely asked for. I am and was more of an independent soul who knew I could do it all, even at the risk of feeling drained. I fear I didn’t teach her that accepting help or admitting defeat is okay and isn’t a sign of weakness. Rather, getting help is okay because it shows that you can let go of ego and stubborn pride to get help from those who care about you without judgment.

It’s Okay to Speak Up

As my daughter gets older and I see that I still struggle with this concept for I hate confrontation, I realize that I didn’t teach her it’s okay to speak up respectfully for something you believe to be wrong. If you are in a situation where you feel you should speak up, then do so and do so in a way that doesn’t engage an argument. This is a skill I am still trying to master at 35 years of age, but I hope I have just enough time to be the example to her that she needs to learn how to speak up for herself and defend her rights to adults and peers alike.

Things I wish I had Taught my Daughter

There are many things I have taught my daughter that make me proud, there are many things that she has also taught me that make me proud. Being a mom is such a difficult task because you think you are doing things right only to find that you missed out on some moments to teach valuable lessons. It is never too late to try again and to morph these things that you didn’t teach your child into today’s life. If you too are faced with the realization that you didn’t teach your child something that was important, try to set the example now. They will learn best when they see these things in action through you rather than lecturing them about the lessons you never taught.