Children are very impressionable. They are at the age where they are learning about communication through speech, so naturally, it is best to practice mindfulness when speaking around children.
When teaching them things, try to use simple language that they will understand. Do not shout or speak harshly; remember that young ears are listening and your words will be remembered for a lifetime.
The following are examples of unclear speech that should be avoided around children
– That’s mine. Give it to me. (Instead, try speaking in the affirmative: This is mine. Can I have it back?)
– You can’t go outside until you finish your homework. (Instead, try speaking in the negative: It will not be very fun if you do not finish your homework, so it might be a good idea to complete it before playing outside.)
– Don’t make me come over there. (Instead, try speaking in the imperative: If you would like me to stop what I am doing and come to where you are, then speak in an affirmative tone. You can also express your feelings while using modal voice: It is important to me that you share. Please give it back.)
Be Mindful of How you Speak Near Children
Children are very impressionable. They are at the age where they are learning about communication through speech, so naturally, it is best to practice mindfulness when speaking around children.
When speaking to children, also keep in mind that they are still learning about boundaries and their bodies. Be aware of your body language, regardless if you feel frustrated or not. Other people tend to mimic emotions around them, so it is best to express feelings of peace and happiness when communicating with them.
Finally, respect the child’s privacy. This means not speaking about them in front of them, and respecting the need for private time or space away from others once in a while. The more we respect children and their rights to privacy and boundaries, the better our relationships with them will be.
Worst Mistakes Parents Make When Speaking to Their Children
Below are some examples of the mistakes parents often make when speaking to their children.
Sharing too much personal information that is not necessary.
When asking questions to children, ask about school, their friends, or things they are interested in instead of constantly asking about personal details.
Asking questions that may be uncomfortable for the child.
For example, if your child does not want to talk about his friend’s behavior at school, do not ask him about it.
Asking too many questions.
Sometimes, parents ask a question but then keep on talking and asking more instead of letting the child answer. A gentle reminder that it is their turn to speak can help with this problem.
Using phrases such as “I’m watching you” or “You’re in big trouble.”
Because children are still learning boundaries, they may automatically feel that there is a threat whenever an adult talks to or around them. It is best to avoid using phrases like these.
Insulting the child’s appearance or abilities in any way.
This can make children feel very unattractive and embarrassed about themselves if they hear it enough. If you have any concerns about your child’s appearance or abilities, it is best to address them with the child directly instead of speaking about them in front of him or her.
Children deserve to grow up in a safe, healthy environment where they feel secure about themselves, respected by others and loved unconditionally. By practicing mindfulness with our words, we can help them foster healthy self-esteem as they grow up!