How to Raise Your Child to Be a Good Friend

I think we all can agree as parents, our goal is to raise well rounded children. We want them to be kind to others, have confidence, be strong, help out others, and the list can go on and on! We just want our child to succeed at all things in life!

I am going to share on tips on how to raise your child to be a good friend to others. I think this is important, because we all need friends to lean on throughout our lives! They are wonderful to have so you can create memories, and friends just make life better!  I think we all can name one person who was our best friend as a child, and all the amazing memories you had together. It is important for children to know how to connect with others.

5 Tips For Teaching Your Child to Be a Good Friend

5 Tips For Teaching Your Child to Be a Good Friend to Others

Not Be Selfish

One thing I know is, when I look for friends I want it to be a give and take relationship. You listen to me, I listen to you. Teaching your child not to be selfish but more selfless, and give to others is great. Teach them to share their toys, care for others when they are sad, cheer for family and friends when they achieve something and so on. Just make sure that they realize the world doesn’t revolve around them, and that we need to care about everyone else, as they care for you.

Self Esteem

It is important to help build up your child’s self esteem! Have a positive outlook on life, seeing the good in others, is a great quality to have. With a good self esteem it helps you be confident in your friendships and not question motives or if they truly like you!  I also like to teach children to love every person no matter what our difference are. We are all beautifully made, and that we need to be kind and loving to everyone.

Trustworthy

This is one that they will learn as they grow. Teaching kids to be honest is something we all do as parents. As they get older, being able to admit the wrongs they do, and just being a good person. If you tell them something they don’t go and blab it. Again this one is for older kids, but you can also start young by having them be honest when they get caught doing something they probably shouldn’t.

Be a Role Model

Children really learn a lot from their mom and dad, or the adult figures in their life. Make sure you model a good friend to your friends. If you don’t really have many friends, then treat your family members well. Don’t talk bad about them, make sure you talk in a positive manner. When they see you being nice to strangers, having positive relationships with friends and family, they will begin to mimic those same characteristics.

Discuss Healthy Friendships

When your child is old enough, make sure you talk about positive and healthy friendships. That you give and take, and listen to each other. That the friendship is healthy and you lift each other up. Friendships are not about fighting or leaving feeling bad because they always say something hurtful. Make sure to share points of healthy friendships, so your kid knows what to look for.

Just make sure at the end of the day, you have that open communication with your child, so that they know if a friend isn’t being nice they can come to you. That you can help teach them, how to be a good friend, and how to find a good friend.

About the Author

Kelsey is a freelance writer for bloggers! A country girl from Kansas, who enjoys spending time with family! You can see what Kelsey has available for content in her Facebook Group.

How To Teach Children To Be Kind

Kindness is one of the important qualities to foster in children. There is no obvious way in teaching your kids how to imbibe kindness. It’s not as easy as teaching them the letters of the alphabets or how to make their beds.

Kindness as a quality comes easily to some children. Children already have a great capacity to be compassionate, but with all the pain and wickedness in the world today, it becomes necessary to nurture these innate qualities of kindness in them and show them the benefits of compassion so they do not allow the world harden them before they grow up into adults. Teaching children early enough to be compassionate and empathetic helps them build up values that they will follow for as long as they live. When children learn to be kind and to give, it helps their development, and it helps them feel good about themselves. Being kind promotes a positive attitude in children.

How To Teach Children To Be Kind

Here are a few ways you can use in teaching your children how to be kind

Children, as expected mostly learn by examples, seeing their parents or guardians practicing something rather than doing it, helps them learn. When you demonstrate compassion and empathy to those around you and even strangers, it shows them the importance of showing empathy, and they begin to assimilate instances when kindness has been shown, and if by chance they find themselves in that situation, they know the best action to take in that situation. Even in your everyday interactions with your children, show them kindness. A child cannot be kind when they have not experienced kindness.

Teach Gentleness

Show your child how to be gentle with humans and animals. When you see them being rough in their actions towards others whether their siblings or to their pet, you should be quick to correct them and show them how to handle others with love.

Involvement

Get your children involved in kindness project. Allow them to pitch in when you are trying to send meals to a neighbor who might be ill or has lost a loved one. When you go to deliver these gifts, take your kids along, so they understand the importance of showing sympathy and the joy that comes from making someone smile.

Sharing

Teach your kids to share. Make it a duty to learn to donate items they might not be using to charity or to share their toys with their friends or other kids when asked.

Think of Others

Tell them always to put themselves in someone’s shoes before they react at any given time. Learning to put yourself in someone’s shoes before taking any decision makes you kinder because you think of how you will want to be treated in that same situation and act accordingly.

Avoid Rudeness

Avoid being rude to others. When you are in a restaurant with your kids, mind the way you speak to the waiters or even when buying something from the supermarket, be careful with the way you talk to the sales person. Children notice when you are rude. If at any point, you see your child speaking or acting rudely to someone, correct them and make sure they apologize. Teach your children always to compliment others and to be appreciative of any service rendered to them.

When teaching your children to be kind, remember it’s on you to be a good role model for them.

 

I Saw, I Fell!

Do you believe in love at first sight?

I did as an emotional teenager.  I watched old Hollywood musicals on TV, read Wuthering Heights with a tear-streamed face, and knew the words to every sappy song on the radio.

Then I didn’t.  We understand a little more about love as we get older, and as we realize that songs, books and movies only play with our emotions for a little while as we form our real lives, we understand that real love builds over time. That’s why they’re called relationships. Because we need time to relate in order to build love.

One writer at ParentInfluence shares her story of love at first sight, with her first grandchild.

Now some may argue that love at first sight is that special feeling mothers have at childbirth, but I say no! Love at first sign of a bump; surely love at first kick, but the love is there well before first sight. Personally, I felt love at first wave of nausea and bloat, but I was crazy about pregnancy, so that’s just me. Being pregnant is a nine-month mini relationship with your baby before you meet. It’s kind of the internet dating portion of parenting, and birth is the first actual face to face meeting. So unless a mother is telling her adoption story, I’m going to argue against love at first sight with your own child.

No, I was sure love at first sight was a romantic myth. Until I experienced it when I met my first grandchild. I was there when she was born, and when the excitement, relief, fatigue, and all the other emotions that accompany a birth subsided and I was home in bed that night, something happened to me that I had only even heard of once or twice. When I closed my eyes, I could see her face. It was as clear as if she were in the room…so clear I couldn’t sleep, or even relax. Her image was on the back of my eyelids, my heart was pounding and I had this feeling of complete joy! I knew I would never be the same, as I now had this new love, which was more intense than I could have imagined.

This was over eleven years ago, and I can remember the event as perfectly now as I did that night. In some ways, it is clearer than the memory of the birth itself, and here is why: You don’t just become a grandmother. The prerequisite is that you are a mother. That same mother that fell in love with her baby in utero, who saw her face at birth, is now still parenting; though with an adult child.

During the pregnancies of your children, you are very excited for the coming baby, but you are still viewing this event through the mom lens.  You worry about the health of your daughter or daughter-in-law. You fuss over details as you help the new mom get ready. In the delivery room, you are excited, but worry about the medical aspects and the pain and anxiety she is going through. This is the birth of HER baby, HER experience; and you are thrilled for her. You are a happy mom of a parent. You make sure everyone is fine, stay out of the way so bonding of the new family can take place as you breathe a sigh of relief. Then it happens… the baby is looking at YOU. For the first time, it’s just the two of you.  And a love is born. Right there…at first sight.

One writer at ParentInfluence shares her story of love at first sight, with her first grandchild.

I now have five grandchildren, and each of these relationships are unique, as they should be. There are days I feel that the love we have is the most amazing bond there is, and days I worry we are not as close as I would like. I will always remember with awe, however, the day I became Mimi.

About the Author – Diana Fox

Diana is a former early childhood educator who loves writing, all needlecrafts, playing the harp, and just being silly with her large family. She enjoys traveling, then returning to her country life in New Hampshire with her husband, collie, cat and chickens.

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Different Ways to Teaching Siblings to Get Along

Teaching siblings to get along can take some time, but with a few tips and tricks you can achieve this goal! Sibling rivalry is a real thing, and sometimes it is very hard for children to see eye to eye.

Nothing beats growing up and your sister or brother becoming your best friend. Someone you can count on and trust fully! Below are ways to help teach your children that they can be friends with each other!

Tips for Teaching Siblings To Be Friends

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Tips for Teaching Siblings To Be Friends

Role Model: If you have siblings yourself, you know that sometimes you might not see eye to eye, but you still have to be respectful and loving. Lead by example, as your children will watch how you act with your brother or sisters. So make sure to show family is important, spend time with them, and always talk in a positive manner.

Positive Praise: Make sure to focus on each child’s strengths! If one child does great at sports, compliment them. If the other is very artistic, praise them on their masterpieces. Make sure that you are sending out positive praise for their unique talents. This will show your children that they are each good in different areas and that is great.

Don’t Compare: Don’t compare your children in a negative way. Don’t say, “Arnold is so great at running the 50 meter dash, if you tried harder you could  be just as good or better.” That is a way to create fights between your children. No matter what the instance is don’t compare.

Sharing: Make sure your children learn how to share their toys and electronics. By taking set turns it teaches them that all things are equal. You can set a timer and for that set time they can play or watch their show on tv, and then when it goes off it is their siblings turn. This is a great way for them to learn how to share and it shows no favoritism.

Kindness: Teach your children manners and being kind to each other and everyone else. Learning to say thank you, and do kind task for others is a great attribute in children. You could go around the table at dinner and share something they appreciate about one another, this is a great way for your children to see that they do love each other.

Personal Time with Mom and Dad: Make sure you give each child set time where it is just you and them. Take them out for dinner, go get donuts, head to the park, whatever they enjoy doing. Making sure each child gets time with the parents alone lets them know they are special and you value them. Do this with each child on a regular basis. Letting your children know how much you love them is so important, and they won’t feel they have to fight for your attention.

I hope these simple tips can help. It takes some kids longer to get along, and some love each other from day one. Just love your children equally and speak positive praise over each one, and work at showing that their siblings are special too, and in time they could become best friends.

About the Author

Kelsey is a freelance writer for bloggers! A country girl from Kansas, who enjoys spending time with family! You can see what Kelsey has available for content in her Facebook Group.

Spoil Mom with Breakfast in Bed this Mother’s Day

This coming Sunday is Mother’s Day and with it comes the need to have some ideas to celebrate the special Mom in your life. If your partner or kids need a little nudge this year, then share these fabulous recipes with them for a little breakfast in bed for Mom on Sunday!

Spoil Mom with Breakfast in Bed this Mother's Day

The brand sent me over some Viki’s Granola, Gaea, and Carrington Farms supplies to help facilitate the recreation of these recipes. Sadly, I was unable to get my own photos in time due to sickness running our household for a week now, boo! I didn’t want to keep you all from having breakfast in bed ideas though, so without further adieu here are three yummy recipes to make Mom feel special:

Mother's Day ~Breakfast in Bed~ Recipes

Maple Cranberry Granola Pancakes

Why pancakes? Well because they are easy enough for the kids to whip up and don’t take too long to make. The perfect way to sneak down into the kitchen and make a special breakfast without much work.

Ingredients:
  • 1 cup flour
  • 1 tablespoon sugar
  • 1 teaspoon baking powder
  • ½ teaspoon baking soda
  • Pinch of salt
  • 1 cup buttermilk
  • 1 egg
  • 3 tablespoons melted butter
  • Maple syrup for topping
Directions:
In a large mixing bowl, blend flour, sugar, baking powder, baking soda and salt. Using a whisk or hand held mixer, whisk in buttermilk and egg until well combined and smooth. Stir in the melted butter. Heat a non-stick pan or griddle over medium heat. Using a ¼ cup measure, pour pancake mix to cook. When pancake is golden brown, flip and cook other side. Keep warm in a 275° oven. To serve stack a few pancakes and top with maple syrup and Viki’s Cranberry Maple Granola.
Mother's Day ~Breakfast in Bed~ Recipes
Ghee French Toast
Another semi-easy recipe to whip up for that special Mom on Sunday, Ghee French Toast. This surely will be a hit with that special lady because french toast is simply delish!
Ingredients:
  • 5 eggs
  • 3 tablespoons of sugar
  • 1/3 cup 1% milk
  • 3 tablespoons cinnamon
  • 6 slices of brioche bread (cut into ½ inch slices)
Directions:
  1. Whisk eggs, sugar, milk, ghee and cinnamon for 30 seconds.
  2. Dip both sides of bread in mixture until saturated
  3. Put 1 tbsp of ghee in pan and turn heat on low for 20 seconds to let the ghee melt.
  4. Place 3 slices of bread in pan at a time and keep on medium heat.
  5. Cook slices until browned on both sides.
  6. Repeat steps 3-5 for the last 3 pieces.

Mother's Day ~Breakfast in Bed~ Recipes

Feta and Olive Oil Cakes

Now this is a bit more difficult and will certainly take a little bit of time to create, but well worth it. Have that Mom in your life feel all fancy with this feta and olive oil cakes recipe on Mother’s Day for breakfast in bed.

Ingredients
Directions
Preheat oven to 350F. Process the cheese with the sugar and honey in a mixer until smooth. Add olive oil. Combine flour with the ground almonds and baking powder and add to bowl while mixing. Divide batter among 6 greased one-use individual cake molds and top each with half an olive. Sprinkle top of batter with brown sugar and bake for about 25 minutes.

Happy Mother’s Day

Last, but not least, Happy Mother’s Day to all of you Mama’s out there! May you have a relaxing, family filled weekend full of love.

From Kool-Aid Mom to Cookie Grandma…Or Not

You know those feelings you get as a parent when you are walking on egg shells, second guessing yourself about decisions, feeling guilty about doing too little? Or is it too much? Am I doing it right? Am I at least acting like I know what I’m doing? Am I being too much me and not enough a parent, or am I being too much a parent and not enough me? Add 20 hormone-starved pounds, some gray roots, a little less energy, and you have today’s grandmother. At least those of us who worry too much and are honest about it.

From Kool-Aid Mom to Cookie Grandma…Or Not

As a child, I imagined what I would look like as a mother. In this fantasy, I was outside in a grassy yard and I was serving Kool-Aid to the neighborhood children as the sun shone and the wind gently tossed my hair. I smiled with my shiny red lipstick from the Avon Lady, and the children laughed and admired this cool mom whose house was the place everyone wanted to be. I knew exactly where this image came from, and there was even a name for it in ‘60’s-‘70’s advertising: “The Kool-Aid Mom.” What I did not know was that becoming a mother didn’t mean the rest of life was in suspended amination. There were still bills to pay, politicians back peddling on the news, dog poop in the yard, a significant other who was also not TV commercial casting material, and that person in the mirror who never seems to be “done.”  Now in my defense, as a child you role-play, immersing yourself into a fantasy with little knowledge of character complications and real life.  I would of course not make that same mistake when I became a grandmother.

As a young adult, I imagined what I would look like as a grandmother. You know where I’m going with this, right?

Today’s grandparent is living in an age where youthful appearance is revered, yet our image of the gray-haired lady with the plate of cookies on the shiny porch (I have a thing for family icon stereotypes in sunny yards, apparently) is the image we hold as the ideal. Like new parents, we are more than excited to take on this new role with that same feeling of a love so deep, we could not imagine it; yet also like new parents, we have no idea what we’re doing, as our roles are being redefined as the term “age-appropriate” becomes more fluid.

When I first found out I was going to be a mother it happened sooner than I had thought it would, and I had to reinvent who I wanted to be to this little alien in my belly, who with her sisters would become my life’s greatest work and deepest purpose. When I first found out I was going to be a grandmother it also happened  sooner than I thought, and I did the same; but this time I built off of who I was, not from an image I told myself I needed to become.

I became Mimi, and I can’t wait to tell you about my adventures with The Five Grands, as I call them! I still have moments of doubt, anxiety and feeling not good enough, but that’s how I know I’m doing this as myself.

About the Author – Diana Fox

Diana is a former early childhood educator who loves writing, all needlecrafts, playing the harp, and just being silly with her large family. She enjoys traveling, then returning to her country life in New Hampshire with her husband, collie, cat and chickens.

All about a Hyperactive Child

Many children are hyper; they just have this boat load of energy that they can’t always displace elsewhere. Some children can even be super active all day long, running around outdoors and having high activity levels yet still be hyperactive. Parents who are raising children who are hyperactive can often find themselves frustrated, exhausted and baffled as to what is going on. Often times these children are diagnosed with Attention Deficient Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) or ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder). I personally feel these labels are placed on children to give parents a reason to medicate them. As a parent who had horrible experiences when she opted in to medicate one of her children, I refuse to medicate a child for pretty much anything. I am not against medication, but I am against it for certain things such as ADHD or ADD. I will not medicate my hyperactive child, it’s not worth it to me. The side effects of medications and the downside of killing the child’s true personality is simply something I, as a parent, am not comfortable with.

 

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With all of that being said, how do you work with your hyperactive child? What is it that child may be thinking?

Often times a hyperactive child is the one who is singled out, they want to be good and they desire to focus but they simply can’t. With age they may learn some techniques to focus and control energy levels, but until their brain matures enough they simply struggle. Boys brains don’t even develop fully until somewhere in their early twenties. I am raising a hyperactive child and I am guilty of focusing on the responses and behavior. I am guilty of not figuring out a full-fledged plan to help him focus and control energy levels.  I am on a mission to change that.

ParentInfluence All about a Hyperactive Child

Research ADHD and ADD

I have researched and read about ADHD, I firmly believe my child has this. I also have had the pleasure of my son speaking up for himself. He talks about how difficult it is to focus in a classroom with so much noise. Even someone walking in a hallway can distract him while he is trying so hard to focus on school work. His brain is constantly working and his body constantly wants to move. He can’t help it and he’s starting to get angry about it. Recently my son asked for a fidget spinner in hopes it can help him focus but I know teachers may take it away or tell him to put it away. Unlike my second born child who has a High Functioning Autistic diagnosis and a 504 plan, my younger son has no protections like that and is treated just like every other kid. Sadly our school systems can’t morph into what they need to be for every child, obviously unless a legal document like a 504 or IEP is in place, because only then do they fear being sued. I won’t let my youngest be another stat that gets funding to schools. I don’t think he needs it, I say if an environment doesn’t work – change it!

You Can Make Change

That’s just what we will work on, a change. I firmly believe adults suffer mental health issues from being in environments that don’t work for them. Adults can make change, leave a relationship, change jobs, etc. to make sure their mental health is in tip top shape, so why as parents don’t we think to change something for our children? A child at age 8 may not be able to make their own change, but when your child comes to you on a regular basis saying teachers do nothing but yell, they are grumpy and the child expresses the inability to focus yet having the desire to focus. It’s time to put your parental duties to work. Either find ways to help your hyperactive child work through distractions, try to have Faith in a conversation with schools (this hasn’t proved to work well unless I had the 504 honestly) or do something else. There’s no need to fuel your hyperactive child’s negative feelings, because then they will turn into a very angry teenager.

ParentInfluence All about a Hyperactive Child

Hyperactive Children Lose Self-Esteem

Hyperactive children often feel like they are not good enough, their self-esteem gets diminished and they lose their shine over the years. They spend a lot of time being yelled at, being told to sit still, being told that what they are doing isn’t right, isn’t good enough. Perhaps as the parents and caregivers of a hyperactive child we can do better for them. Rather than yelling at the child for a behavior they often cannot control, rule out sleep issues; rule out other issues that may be causing hyperactivity such as food options. I found with my first born son that lack of sleep totally changed him; he would be more apt to have meltdowns and be unreasonable. Since you are raising a hyperactive child, their brain may not be slowing down enough to let them get into a deep sleep which only makes their daytime behavior worse.

Parenthood has Its Challenges

All I can tell you is that parenthood has its challenges, but I have seen one thing hold true that works every time – remain positive, speak kind words, do not yell and always do your best to treat your child as if they matter and that you have empathy for their struggles. Talk with them on a regular basis about their hyperactive brain, figure out what they are thinking and feeling. Once you have worked to hear them and discussed their feelings, find a way to make a positive change for them. Even if that means pulling them into a different school environment, switching the whole family’s diet or lifestyle, this is simply what you do if you are a parent who cares about helping your hyperactive child succeed.

5 Reasons Grandparents Matter

It has been proven years and years past that one thing remain trues, the emotional connection between child and grandparent comes in second only to the attachment the child has with their parents. These days it’s not uncommon to see grandparents raising grandchildren, but there’s something more to be said about why grandparents matter. Grandparents are not here to raise more children. They are here to play the significant role of grandparent and here’s why that relationship matters:

Ever wonder what grandparents bring to the table? I was lucky to have great grandparents and still do, but some don't. Here's 5 Reasons Grandparents Matter.

Teach Historical Lessons

Many grandparents have lived well beyond the child’s parents and have seen things that no longer exist in our current generation. Grandparents allow history to be shared from generation to generation. Ever seen a group of grandchildren sitting cross-legged on the floor hanging onto every world of their grandparent? That’s the grandparent teaching historical lessons in such a fascinating way that it holds the attention of even the youngest of children.

Grandparents Help Guide Parents

In a time when people are becoming parents at a younger age, grandparents can play a valuable role by being a secondary parent within the household. No more are the old days where having your parents live with you is a rare commodity. Times seem to be repeating themselves as history swings slightly back in time when parents, grandparents and children all resided together under the same roof. Grandparents can help guide parents to be better at being mom or dad when they are around more.

5 Reasons Grandparents Matter

Grandparents Teach Old Values

The times have changed, with technology advancing it seems our fast paced world would rather snoop on social media or interact online than to extend a hand to thy neighbor. Grandparents keep the old values alive. You know the ones where we help our neighbor, we participate in the community and we give to others without expectation for anything in return. Grandparents bring these old school values into the life of your child at a higher level and it teaches them to keep the old values alive.

Grandparents are Simply Fun

There’s nothing more fun than having a sleep over with your grandparent. Most of us can relate to that feeling of getting a little spoiled at Grandma and Grandpa’s house. That’s what grandparents are for, to have a little fun with their grandchildren without having to stress over the role that parents play. Grandparents have already raised children, they know through trial and error what works and doesn’t work. Being a grandparent allows them to be more fun than they could be when raising children and grandchildren love this!

Ever wonder what grandparents bring to the table? I was lucky to have great grandparents and still do, but some don't. Here's 5 Reasons Grandparents Matter.

Grandparents Aren’t Fearful of Truth

Most elders don’t care what they say aloud. Grandparents were raised in a different time, a time in which political correctness wasn’t on high alert. Grandparents are not fearful of speaking truth, they do so in a kind way but sometimes it’s shocking to the current generation. Grandparents teach children to speak what they feel without fear of ridicule and to do so in a nonchalant, non-attacking way.  Grandparents have more wisdom and confidence to share with grandchildren than parents can offer because they simply grew up in a different time. Children who spend time with their grandparents learn to be confident in speaking truth even if someone’s feelings are hurt, for the intention is to stay true to yourself not fear what others think when you speak up for yourself.

What say you, do you think Grandparents play a pretty awesome role in the life of children?