Raising Humble Kids Isn’t Hard, Here’s How


As a parent, you always want the best for your kids. You not only want to make sure that they’re happy and lead fulfilling lives, but you want to make sure that the turn into incredible people too. And one of the ways you can do that is to ensure that they always remain humble. It’s not always easy to achieve, but ensuring that your kids are kind, loving, and polite is easy enough, and so why shouldn’t it be the same for making them humble? If you want your kids to be both humble and happy, here are some ideas for achieving it.

Stress The Importance Of Listening

First of all, you’re going to want to make sure that your children are great listeners. This is definitely one the of hardest things to do, as kids aren’t always great at listening first and speaking second – they often want to share what they have to say. But, if you can teach them to listen first, they will always be humble. But not being selfish, but instead putting others first, they will always live a humble and happy life.

Appreciate Hard Work

Next, you’re going to want to instill in them what it means to work hard and why it is important. It’s easy to feel like you should do everything for your kids, but you’re not helping them become the best they can be by doing that. Hard work is definitely one of the life skills that you need to teach them. If they can appreciate and value hard work in life, it will go a long way in keeping them grounded.

Teach Them To Help Others

You should also do what you can to show them how important it is to be selfless in life. Helping others is always an important part of leading a rewarding life. So, it’s a skill and consideration to show them early. Charitable organizations are great to work with here. The work that they do, like MERS Goodwill with providing opportunities, is so important for the community. By giving back and getting involved in charity projects, you will show how important it is to help others and be humble.

Show Them The Value Of Money

One of the things that can spoil people in life is money. Money is often a way that people can fall off track and lose their focus on what’s really important. So, to ensure that your kids stay grounded, especially when it comes to money, be sure to teach them the value of money young. This Parents post should definitely help with that. But giving a set allowance, showing them how to spend and teaching how many works can definitely help here.

Value Their Relationships

A huge sign of a humble person is the importance they place on their relationships. If you want to ensure that your kids grow to be humble adults, you need to stress the importance of valuing the relationships they have in life. It’s easy to see the value in materials things, but material things aren’t what matters most in life. So, teaching them to value their relationships will go a long way.

Ways to Deal with Children With Social Anxiety

If you are wondering if your child might suffer from social anxiety, then read below to see if your child fits. Social anxiety in children is a fear or phobia related to struggling interacting with others or being the center of attention. Children might become quiet, extra shy, do not voice their fears or issues they might be feeling, and even cry and ask to leave.

Social anxiety is real, and your child might even begin to feel nauseated, complain of stomachaches when out, headaches and more. Your child can learn to overcome these fears, below I will share some ways to deal with your child and their social anxiety!

These tips can help your child to work through and overcome their social anxiety over time. It is very normal for children to go through a phase of being shy, and they normally grow out of it.

Ways to Deal with Children With Social Anxiety

Managing Social Anxiety in Your Child

Teach Child About Social Anxiety: If you find that your child might be suffering from social anxiety, take time to talk with them. Explain that anxiety is normal and we all experience it in our lives. Our body is feeling like we are in danger, but there is no danger present, with social anxiety.

Don’t Downplay Their Feelings: Social anxiety is very real, and those fears can’t be turned off instantly. Do not downplay your child’s feelings, or force your child to do something or talk to someone if they don’t want. It can be frustrating for the parents, but don’t get upset of your child because they are fearful in social settings.

Empathize or Sympathize: If you have struggled with social anxiety you can sympathize with your child and tell them how you overcame. If you don’t have any experience with social anxiety, then empathize when them. Listen to how they feel when they get around big groups, and be supportive. Teach them that by breathing deep, and  slowly trying to talk here and there can help them to overcome the hurdle. Then maybe they won’t feel so anxious.

Play Dates: Start small by inviting a friend over for your child to play with. Then once they feel comfortable, maybe try having a play date at their friends house. Go the first time if your child feels anxious, and slowly work towards leaving them alone at the play date. This can help them work towards overcoming their anxiety. It is a slow process but in time you will see improvement.

Go Places: Take your child out and go to the library, park, or somewhere else they enjoy. Then let them learn to play or do an activity without you right next to them. Start small by standing behind them, then take a few steps back. Just let them know that they can’t sit on your lap, and just communicate along the way. Don’t just go hide, because if they can’t see you they will panic. Just keep the communication open. Maybe the 2nd or 3rd visit, say you are going to go sit on the bench and show them where it is at. They can still see if they need you.

Just remember this could take time for your little one to feel comfortable. After a little while you might see some good improvement. So be patient and just know they will overcome it.

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Are you the Parental Type?

One thing I have learned since becoming a parent is that your mood, your actions and your way of life will determine how your kids behave, think and respond from a young age. Being a parent is one of the most selfless jobs one will ever hold but it’s not for everyone. I think some people are in love with the idea of becoming a parent. They see it as they will do better than this parent who’s kids seem crazy and disrespectful, they will do it right because they have control. Yeah, you can honestly throw that theory out the window. Once you become a parent, all of your ideas of being in control, having this robotic like atmosphere will disappear. I firmly believe this happens because kids are unpredictable, they come in all sorts of shapes, size and mindsets, kids bring with them unique personalities that don’t always match the vision you had to control them and lastly you have a heartfelt bond with your kids – well that is if you truly are a selfless enough person to love in such a way as that of a parents love.

Signs You Are not The Parental Type

Signs You Are not The Parental Type

Many people desire to have a kid, while others simply know in their heart of hearts that having a kid isn’t in the cards for them, they are not built to be a parent. I admire people who can admit that they simply aren’t in for being a parent. I have relatives who feel that way and when having discussions with them about it, I truly admired how honest they were about who they are and what they want in life. They know having a kid doesn’t fit into the woodwork of the life they want to live. If you are someone who simply cannot foresee the future with little kids in tow, then you are not ready to be a parent and that’s okay.

The sound of kids being happy, running around in the home or the sounds of siblings bickering about something ridiculous makes you angry. If you often find yourself hearing the voice of kids whether happy or bickering and it just makes your skin crawl, well then you really are not the parental type. Sure there’s a difference between your own kids and someone else’s, I get that, but reality is kids argue, kids defy orders and kids have energy. If you can’t keep up with that or don’t find joy in the sound of children, well then you are not the parental type and probably should just say no thanks to the idea.

If you have not learned to control your temper, you are not ready to be a parent but can change that to become the parental type. Raising kids requires a higher level of patience, compassion and empathy than any other job in the world. If you are often fueled into a huge temper fit and respond as such to kids or adults then you are not the parental type. While all humans have their patience level that can be broken, if you are literally always throwing a fit because a kid doesn’t see eye to eye with you or doesn’t’ listen the first time and then react in yelling, breaking stuff or setting unreasonable consequences then you are not the parental type.

Last, but not least, you simply feel no connection to the idea of having kids under your care. You may be scared of this idea, think that you simply can’t raise kids or just don’t have the time or energy required to raise kids then you are not the parental type. This is not to be confused with normal scared feelings that all of us have when thinking about raising kids right, all parents have this fear and it wouldn’t be normal to go into parenthood without some level of fear. I am talking about the ultimate thought that you really are too selfish in your own dreams and goals to raise a kid, such as money fuels you and the desire to have your name recognized is important, then you may not be the parental type because kids will deter your path to those type of dreams and thought patterns.

Signs You Are not The Parental Type

You Can Become the Parental Type

Surely there is room for change with everyone, if having a kid is something that you feel is important to you but you are struggling with a lot of the reasons listed above as to why you are not the parental type, there’s time to change. Becoming a parent often times allows you a chance to change. One will not usually change before having a kid, it’s something that switches in your mind and heart after you become a parent. I often tell people that unless you have had your own kids, given birth to them or been there to raise them from baby days up, then you will never fully understand what changes within you once your child arrives.

There’s always room to change … just be confident enough to realize what needs to be changed to create a calm, respectful, kind and loving environment for kids and move forward to make that change. That is if parenting is in your thoughts as something important to you, if you don’t desire to be a parent, then don’t let others pressure you. Be who you are, parent or not, but remember once you become a parent, you are in charge of little human beings whose confidence and esteem is in your hands. 

Parenting is all About Instincts

I am on a kick this week writing about gut instincts, seriously head on over to BrandyEllen.com to read more on dreams and instincts this week. With that being said, I wanted to take a moment to write about parenting and how it is all about instincts. You see, we can read all of the parenting books out there; we can listen to the advice of our elders. We can go on and on trying to be told or determine what we should be doing at parents but at the end of the day, it’s all about our instincts as a parental unit to our child.

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While I am often found lending advice or saying what works for me, how I have seen my autistic son grow with age, this isn’t the case for other parents. We all live in different environments; we all have different morals, values and beliefs. Every single family on this Earth is unique and that is what makes the world we live in so beautiful. In my opinion.

Okay back on topic … parenting is all about instincts.

When you bring this little bundle of joy into this world, you are instantly in love. You want nothing more than to do good by this little bundle of joy and you know that you will always work to be better as a person and a parent each day. The newborn days are tough. You are often tested to see what you can figure out from a simple cry. That baby will cry and sleep very little in the middle of the night yet you somehow figure out what your baby needs. You work through it and you use instincts, believe it or not, to determine what your baby needs!

As your child grows into a toddler, they are more demanding for now they have figured out how to use their voice and you are the lucky one who taught them how to talk. It’s like this catch 22, you teach them to talk and then you want them to stop. Reality is you still have to use your instincts to figure out what is causing your toddler to have a tantrum. You have to figure out what times are best to give the toddler a nap. You have to figure out if your tantrum throwing toddler needs something beyond the immediate moment. Perhaps the toddler needs more positive attention and sure enough they will act out negatively just to get your attention.

Then you get into the days of pre-teens. These are difficult times for the child is shown the path by their peers. They are in school and learning how others interact as a family, what their friends believe in and more than likely they have picked up some bad habits. You have to work with your pre-teen at home to determine where behavioral issues are stemming from. Is there something wrong at school, is your child feeling like they are not good enough? Will your pre-teen talk to you? Maybe, maybe not. You have to again dig deep into that parental gut instinct and know your child to figure out what’s going on.

Parenting is all About Instincts

Last, but certainly not least your role as a parent turns to the raising of a teenager. These years are confusing, difficult and make gut instincts on edge. During the teen years your parental instincts will be tested because you will watch shows, read books and learn more about this stage in childhood. Those teen years could lead you down a path of thinking your child is on drugs because they are anxious, depressed or moody. That’s not always the case. Teenagers are moody, anxious and depressed – it’s their hormones and the stress brought on by high demand of expectations from school.

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Eventually you will muster through every stage of parenthood, on your own or with help from loved ones. The children will grow up to tell you what they thought you did wrong and what they thought you did right. You will learn all over again how you were great at following instincts in some scenarios and not so great in others. You will learn that as a parent, you did the best you could fueled by the internal need to keep those children safe. Last, but not least, this process will be repeated all over again when and if you become a grandparent.

How to Get your Kids to Do Homework

Many parents struggle with homework time. It seems kids are being sent home with an abundant supply of homework and it’s stressful. Not only is the increase in amount of homework stressful for the kids, it can be completely quite cumbersome for parents too. If you are struggling with how to get your kids to do homework, then read on for some tips on how to get your kids to do homework. There are some simple tactics you can use to increase homework productivity and decrease homework complaints.

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Believe Homework Matters

All too often parents level of frustration with homework stems from how their kids fight them on completing it. While homework may become tedious for parents, you must come to a place where you believe that homework matters. If you believe homework matters then your kids will be convinced that it matters. If you are struggling with believing that homework matters, here are a couple important facts to think about:

  • Homework teaches self-discipline and time management skills. Your kids aren’t able to use time management skills in school because there’s limited time for the day and everything is structured out for them. Homework allows your kids to have a little say in how much they complete at a time and when.
  • Homework can broaden your kid’s knowledge. With school being a specific set of hours Monday through Friday it’s no wonder kids are being left behind in some areas. Teachers can only teach some much with the given school day timeframe. Homework allows your kids to learn more beyond the classroom and expand upon the basic principles they learned during the day.

Set a Routine

Kids thrive on routine, don’t believe us? Go ahead, set a routine in place and watch as homework woes slowly disappear! It’s important to set forth when homework will be done, perhaps consider giving your kids a half hour break after school to recoup from the day. Once that half hour has passed be certain that your kids sit down to start homework. If your child struggles with sitting still long enough to complete the homework in one sitting, consider letting them break homework up into two times during the evening. There’s nothing wrong with working with your child while you set a strict routine that maximizes homework completion and minimizes complaints.

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Teach Homework as a Responsibility

There really is no solution that works to make homework seem fun. No one ever really enjoys homework, it’s simply a responsibility. You must remain firm with the fact that homework has to get done. If you allow breaks in between homework assignments, then try to not give too many privileges during the break time. Let your kids know that homework is to be completed before any fun happens. If you withhold privileges in exchange for getting homework done, eventually your kids will just arrive home, get homework done and move on.

Learn to Breath

Many parents struggle with learning how to get their kids to do homework. Even you hated homework as a child, it’s understandable. Don’t let the fact that you can relate to your kids feelings get in the way of your true parental responsibility, to ensure homework is completed regardless of the headache that ensues trying to get it completed. Learn to breath, remain firm yet compassionate and make homework a regular routine that happens within half an hour of arriving home from school. If you follow these tips I shared today, you are certain to watch as homework gets done and quarrels over homework minimize.

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Co-Parenting Tips for Divorced Couples

Joint custody arrangements after a separation or divorce can become quite stressful. Each parent will have to learn how to let go of the desire to have their child all of the time. Sharing children after a divorce or separation is a matter of fact, unless there is a case of abuse to the children or ex-parent. More often than not the court wishes to have the two parents create a parenting plan that will work for them and their children. The court systems will usually try to get each parent to communicate, most states require the parents to take a child impact seminar that is geared towards teaching co-parents to parent together, treating their relationship much like a business.

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Co-parenting isn’t easy because it’s never easy to have to communicate and share children with the person you no longer wish to be with. This is the number one reason why a divorce or separation should always be well thought out, be certain the relationship is truly dead or else co-parenting can become quite a nightmare when either of you start to date again. Now that you have become a divorced or separated parent, it’s time to learn a few co-parenting tips that can help two parents raise happy, healthy children without drama.

Separate Feelings

When you are co-parenting the situation becomes less about emotions and more about a business arrangement, the business of raising children. Feelings don’t have any place within the co-parenting structure, learn to set your feelings of protection, hurt and anger aside to ensure you can co-parent in a way that is best for the children. Your feelings and your ex-partner’s feelings no longer matter as it pertains to each other. The only thing that matters is that the children’s best interest is at heart and that you two can communicate to make easy transitions for the children without feelings getting in the way.

Only Discuss Children

Now that you are divorced or separated, it’s important to remember that your conversations should be strictly about your children. Even if you had an amicable divorce, discussing each others date nights or woes in life may not be a good idea. Learn to keep the topic of discussion on children only as a means to avoid the hurt feelings or drama that can be created when you talk personal or start pointing fingers about the hurt feelings stemming from the broken relationship. Keep an unspoken rule, if you will, that any conversations heading away from children will not be discussed and stick to it.

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Think Before Speaking

There will be times your ex-parent, known as the co-parent now, will make you angry. It’s normal to have moments of intense rage or hurt feelings in moments with your ex when co-parenting together. Remember you two aren’t married any longer for a reason! Your children shouldn’t have to pay for these moments, keep any negative thoughts to yourself. If you must discuss how you feel about something, talk to a friend in a place where the children will not hear you. Children need to feel safe, secure and confident about loving both parents without ridicule from the other parent.

Use Written Words

If you and your ex-partner are simply not able to come to a peaceful place of communication there are ways around it. Have a family member exchange the children, learn to communicate in email only unless an emergency arises. Often times making it a requirement that if one of you has an issue with something it is emailed or hand written in a letter to the other co-parent creates a more peaceful, business-like approach to co-parenting. When we take time to write down what we are feeling in a high emotional moment, we tend to relax and sometimes realize the issue isn’t stemming from a current date scenario, it’s past feelings getting in the way of co-parenting.

Remember it’s About the Children

Keep in mind, at all times, that co-parenting is no longer about you and your ex-partner. Co-parenting is strictly about raising your children in a way that allows them to thrive. Co-parents will not always have the same rules at both households nor will they always agree on how to raise the children, this is perfectly acceptable. Remember that unless your children are truly in danger, how the co-parent chooses to raise the children while in their care is their right. Learn to respect each other as co-parents who have the best interest of the children at heart.

May each of these co-parenting tips for divorced couples help guide you back to reality and cope with the world of co-parenting in a positive way.

Issue with Invite the Whole Class to Birthday Party Rule

I recall having a conversation with one of my children awhile back; it was in regards to inviting the whole class to a birthday party. This concept that has become the rule at most schools, when you hand out birthday invitations you must invite the whole class has me frustrated. Here I am listening to my child who most certainly doesn’t want their non-friends at their birthday party leaves me with two options, stick to the rule of inviting the whole class or hunting down each parent of my child’s friend to invite that child to the birthday party. This whole rule of having to invite the whole class leaves parents stuck, because sometimes you can’t afford having the whole class showing up for a party and other times, you don’t believe in “life is fair”.

Issue with Inviting all to Birthday party Rule in Classrooms

Here’s my thoughts on the whole invite the whole class rule many classrooms now abide by; it is not setting children up for the real world. As your child grows into the teen years they will suffer more when that teen peer invites certain people to a party while they don’t invite others. These children will grow up to think that the norm is that everyone is always invited to a special event. The real world isn’t like that. We do not always get invited to the party our friends or peers are hosting. There have been many a gatherings I haven’t been invited to, and that’s okay, because I learned to deal with the feeling of being left out. I have learned to deal with the feeling and acceptance that not everyone likes me. Children should be learning this when they are young, so they can cope with this mentality as adults.

I firmly believe the world is fair to everyone mentality is hurting our future generation of adults; we see it with the millennials. Most millennials feel entitled and the work force even molds their rules to suit this generation of adults. It sickens me that society is making this an okay thing. When it comes to birthday parties, it should be all about the birthday child. The birthday child shouldn’t feel obligated to invite people who are either not their friends simply because they have nothing in common or not their friends because the child is mean. Who wants to have to invite the class bully over to a birthday party? That’s just insane, yet the school system requires that you hand out invites to the whole class or nobody.

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I have for a long time struggled with this concept and often times have not hosted a birthday party for my sons, who have a true difficulty with this concept. They would much rather me take the extra effort in hunting down parents than have to hand an invitation to someone who isn’t their friend. How awkward it would be as adults, having a party and having to have people there who are not your friends celebrating your birthday. Why is it okay to require children to do this? When I was growing up we had mailboxes in our classroom, we dropped the invites in our friends mailboxes and were done with it. Some children felt left out, but that’s part of life.

I wish for the sake of helping children cope with feelings they will incur as teenagers and then adults that we stop making life fair across the board. The silliness has got to stop! As parents, it is our duty to teach our children to rise above differences, to accept that some people won’t like us and that is certainly okay. When you aren’t invited to a peer’s birthday party, it simply means that you two are not friends; it doesn’t mean you are less of a person nor does it mean you are enemies. It is simply a fact that not all human beings get along or have common interests that create that level of friendship versus just another peer in the classroom. Why do we, as parents, have to force this life is fair mentality upon our children? I for one don’t do it. I feel it’s much more important to teach my children that life isn’t fair. I teach my children that they are awesome, unique and just fantastic the way they are.

I teach my children to learn their flaws and work to be better tomorrow than they were today, without pressure to become what society pushes upon them.

My oldest is a great example of how this technique has worked, she has been in many scenarios where girls at another table in the lunch room were talking rudely about her. One of my daughter’s friends went over and informed her that these girls were being rude about her. My daughter’s reply made me proud, she said to her friend, “that’s okay, seriously it isn’t a big deal. I know people don’t like me and I am okay with that. No one has to like me, and they have a right to talk that way among themselves. It’s when they start harassing me, calling me names or being rude to me that they cross a line!” While that is paraphrased, as it happened awhile back, that is how we must raise our children.

This invite everyone to the birthday party, in my opinion, is setting our children up for failure as teenagers and adults for they will lack the experience of handling the emotions that come with being left out!

So how is it that we, as parents, handle this school rule? I am not entirely sure because the school rules apply when our children are at school. It doesn’t appear the school system will be changing this rule anytime soon. I guess all we can do, as parents, is to not force this rule upon our own children, find creative ways to invite only friends to the birthday party. Continue to teach our children to rise above our differences, to know that you can be kind to peer without having the pressure of ‘being friends’. There’s nothing wrong with children not liking other children; seriously, this concept goes well into adulthood. What a shock it will be to these children who are being raised with the “life is fair” mentality to find out that the real world isn’t so fair, that not everyone likes us. Even adult’s deal with those feelings of being left out, wondering why they aren’t good enough. It starts at a young age, these feelings of negativity. When children are raised by parents who encourage this “life is fair” mentality they struggle worse in adulthood. I firmly believe a lot of societal rules we have to deal with as parents, make parenting more difficult but we don’t have to conform to society standards.

At a young age my daughter and I worked to write and publish a book that was geared towards building confidence in others, mainly tween girls. That book is available on Amazon and is called Positive Girl – The Power of Your Thoughts. While not everyone will agree with me in how to raise children, I just wish more parents would realize the negative impact you are placing upon your child when you teach them that they will always be included in everything.

Success Can Happen … The American Dream

As I look around the world we live in, from social media posts to everyday interactions with people in person, I am sad about society. Many people came to America all those years back for freedom, the ability to work hard and make a home for their family. Many desired to create success in America. America was the new world where hope was fueled. That all happened, jobs were created and laborers were able to make a decent living to support a family and times, albeit tough, were good. Today all I see is people complaining or asking for pity because they lost a job, they can’t find a job or that they want the rich to be taxed more because, “how dare they get away with making a fortune while the little guy is left not being able to feed their family.”

“We all have the power to rise above our circumstances, choose a more positive path and run with it.” – @brandyellen

I was That Single Mom

I was that little guy, the poor single mom living on pasta and barely able to make ends meet. I wasn’t able to buy my first born Christmas gifts, there was one Christmas that she had two gifts. Literally one gift from me, one from Toys for Tots and that was it. I was so upset, but being that she was a young toddler, maybe around one year of age, she had no idea. There was another Christmas year that her father gave me $45 to spend on her for gifts because he found me in tears over not being able to get her any gifts one year. Another year we were blessed to have a stranger’s family adopt us and there were a boat load of gifts on my office desk at the place I worked. I cried.

While I was lucky in that good things started happening to me, and one could argue that doesn’t happen for everyone. Regardless of the help or surprises that occurred for me as a single mom, I stood firm in wanting to create my own success. I had no desire to live on state assistance forever or get hand outs every holiday season. I wanted success, I wanted to create my own success story … and I did. More on that another day.

When you become humble, honest and okay with your scenario, great things start to happen. We don’t need to take from those who worked their butts off to create success, after all isn’t that why so many came to America in the first place? To have a place where they were free to create their own success story?

“We are all born of flesh, bones, thoughts and feelings which allows us to choose where you go from here.” – @brandyellen

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Success is Different

Each of us has a different success story, mine is different than yours, my boyfriend’s is different than mine and that’s okay. Success has a similar definition for us all but the how we got there or how we view that definition is different across the board. I personally feel that changing who I was to be a better person as a mother to a daughter all those years back was my first taste of success. I also feel that the next portion of my life where I got married and then divorced after having two boys was a success. I once again felt success when I started to learn how to properly train my mind to be optimistic versus pessimistic. Armed with an optimistic attitude my life changed yet again when I met my current boyfriend.

Practice Mindfulness

There are little pieces of my life where I can see success, it’s not one large story, it’s many impactful moments built into one life – mine.  I have empathy and compassion for those who are struggling, for those who have divorced and are now broke and not certain what is going to come next. I feel sad for those struggling with illness and can’t seem to find their happy during these trying times. I get all of the feelings that consume one when enthralled in a bad scenario, I have been there. I have been in your shoes, with a different scenario, more often than not. With that being said, I also believe that I can feel empathy and compassion for you while still having this little thought in the back of my head that reminds me:

“We all are allowed to go downward or upward in life. We all have the free choice to learn from mistakes or just keep making the same ones again, without judgement from others.” – @brandyellen

I understand that you are all wrapped up inside of this difficult time and it’s not easy to see the light. Life was never meant to be easy, it was meant to be lived. We were all meant to have hardships, to have difficult times and in turn have beautiful moments as well. It’s all about how you look at the situation as to whether or not you choose to build your success story or not, today I invite you to think about your thoughts.

#mominfluence We all have the power to rise above our circumstances, choose a more positive path and run with it.

Ask Yourself Some Questions

  • Are you constantly focused on the problem versus the solution?
  • Do you spend more time dwelling on what occurred to create this hardship than focusing on how you can rise above it?

I now invite you to take a moment to jot down some ideas on how you can focus on a solution, focus on surviving today with a smile upon your face. Jot down some moments that you cherish among this madness of bad times. If you can start there, I promise you, life will start to look up and you will soon realize that the American dream is still very much alive within each of us. You, too, can have a little piece of success, if you only open your mind to view the situation slightly different.