Strategies to Encourage Your Child to Confide in You

We all might fear the day our teens or tweens might not confide in us when things are going wrong in their life, or they are struggling. Some kids always talk to their parents, and have a very open relationship, while others distance themselves.

I want to do my very best that my children will have confidence in my relationship with them, that they can trust that no matter what, I will listen, love them unconditionally and be their to help them through the struggle!

Below are some strategies to help encourage your child to confide in you! These are not a guarantee, but it wouldn’t hurt trying in hopes to get them to stay open or open up to you in the future.

5 Tips for Communications Between Parent and Child

5 Tips for Communications Between Parent and Child

I think the tips below are great for starting as young as possible and then as they grow, they will learn to trust and lean on you! Granted you can’t have a deep conversation with a two year old, but you can build a strong foundation so that when the day comes, they can come to you for advice, an ear to listen, or support!

Loving and Calm

When your child, tween or teen gets in trouble, be loving and calm. Don’t just instantly get upset and begin yelling or saying how disappointed you are. Come to them in a loving and calm manner. Listen to what they are saying to you, and work through things in a calm way. The calmer you are, the more they will come to you for any situation. If they know you will get upset and yell, they will be less likely to confide in you.


Make sure that if your child comes to you to talk about any situation, feel free to give real advice. Don’t just give therapist style advice, but be a real person that they can connect with. If your child is struggling at school with a bully, don’t just rush to talk the principal. Hear out what your child is saying, and truly listen and give advice.

Be Open

Make sure your child/teen can talk to you about anything. No topic is ever off the table. Make sure they know that no matter what they can talk, even if it is embarrassing for them. Try to let them know that you always have an open door policy. That if they are struggling, get a bad grade in school, having a bad day and need to talk, you are always there. No judgement, just to listen and help them work through the issue.

Pay Attention

Make sure that you are watching their moods, and behavior. If you see they are acting off, make sure to reach out to them to see how they are. Just make sure that you are paying attention to the signs, so that if they are going through something, you ask, they might tell you.

One-On-One Time

Making sure that  you spend one-on-one time with your child. If you have multiple children, make sure to find time for each. It can be as simple as an ice cream date, just make sure they know you love and make time for them. Building an intimate relationship is a great foundation. Start this even at an early age, and continue it as they grow! Even older kids look for love and quality time from their parents.

These five simple steps can get you far in a relationship with your child. Start showing them love and support young and continue as they grow. Always tell them no matter what they can come to you, and make sure you stay calm and listen to what they are saying. Cool, calm and collected, when they do come to you, will make them feel more at ease to come to you in the future.

About the Author

Kelsey is a freelance writer for bloggers! A country girl from Kansas, who enjoys spending time with family! You can see what Kelsey has available for content in her Facebook Group.

6 Commitments of A Great Parent

When you take on having a child, your life gets put on the back burner. It is our duty as parents to raise our child the best way possible, to prepare them for the world! Parents sometimes sacrifice their own time, so you can spend it helping and teaching, and loving your little one! Below are commitments of great parents. These commitments are a choice, and you can choose to agree and follow them if you want.

Most parents agree, we want to be the best parents we can be, all the time. But sometimes a simple meltdown or 50th time being asked why in a day can be enough for us to begin to lose our minds. These commitments can help you to be the best parent possible!

Best Parenting Commitments

Best Parenting Commitments To Start Following

Be There

Just be there! It’s simple but too often we get distracted and are to busy. Stop what you are doing and spend time with them, make sure if they want to talk, you listen! Even if they are three and don’t make a lot of sense! Showing your interested makes them feel special and loved.

Best Parenting Commitments

Role Model

Be a role model in every area of your life! Be a good spouse, be kind to others, do good deeds, friendly to strangers, and so on. Be the person you are trying to teach your child to be.

Don’t Be Quick To Get Angry

Try and refrain from getting so mad. Just like the saying, “Don’t cry over spilled milk.” Make sure to stay calm if your child makes a mess. Create every area as a learning possibility. If they see you getting mad five times a day, they might mimic that same trait. Step into a different room and breath if you find your getting upset. Count to 10, do what you have to, so you can cool down.

Best Parenting Commitments


Make sure your child knows and understands rules. We live in a world with rules even as adults. Making sure they know if they don’t follow the rules of your household, they will have consequences! Stand firm and don’t give in, if you decide to ground them or take away electronics. Whatever discipline action you take, follow through!

Best Parenting Commitments

Be Open

Make sure you try to be understanding and open to your child at all times. Let them know that at any time they can come to you for support! If they get in trouble or start to struggle, they need to feel you are open to talking so they will come to you! Starting this out when they are young really helps instill that in them, so as they grow they know, no topics are off limits. Staying calm to any information they share is key! If you end up blowing up, they will begin to get fearful to tell you things, because of how you will react.


Love Them

Most importantly just love them! Give them hugs and kisses, speak words of affirmation to them, and just be there for them! We live in a world where all we want is love, so make sure to love on your child, tween and teen! No matter how old they will get, they will still want their mom and dad at times for love and support!

About the Author

Kelsey is a freelance writer for bloggers! A country girl from Kansas, who enjoys spending time with family! You can see what Kelsey has available for content in her Facebook Group.

Are you too Selfish to be a Parent?

It’s happened, you’re pregnant. Congratulations! While you may not be feeling excited about this new journey in your life, there’s lots of good that comes from becoming a parent. As a mom of three, I can tell you it’s the most exhausting yet rewarding job I have ever had and I feel blessed to have a chance to own that title of Mama. With that being said, becoming pregnant isn’t always a planned event. Birth control options have an error rate and even when taken correctly can cause an accident to happen. Basically you must know that having physical activity with your partner, even when using birth control methods, can result in pregnancy.

What happens when you find out you’re pregnant by surprise and you aren’t quite sure that you are ready? Well there are various options and there are also support groups and family who will help lead you forward. Adoption is one option many think of when faced with an accidental pregnancy, and that can provide a loving family with a child of their own. It’s great to be able to opt in for having your newborn baby adopted if you are adamant having a baby isn’t something you’re ready to take on right now. As a mom of three, obviously I never selected that option.

We all choose what’s best for ourselves and our relationship as well as future goals.

Once you find that you are pregnant and it wasn’t planned, you really need to do some soul searching and be honest with yourself about your character. Sometimes people are just too self-absorbed to take on the role of Mom or Dad and that’s okay, so as long as you can be honest with yourself and your loved one so that you don’t put them into a situation where they end up bitter and alone.

How can you Determine if Ready for Baby

While there is no one way to determine if you are ready for a baby, there are a few things you can think about and may need to change if a baby is coming into your life.

  • Does Future Plans Leave Room for Baby? You may have your future goals set out and you are ready to move forward with them. You want to be successful and life has always been just about you. If you have found yourself expecting a baby but you know in your heart that you simply aren’t ready to be as selfless as one must be to be a parent, then you may not be ready.
  • Can you Adapt for new Baby? Once you become a parent, it’s inevitable that your world will revolve around this little human being. Everything you do or say will be taken in by this little baby from day one and you will have to learn to adapt for new baby. If you are someone who can’t foresee adapting to become the best parent possible, then perhaps you are not ready for a new baby.
  • Are you Financially Ready? While most parents find that they weren’t financially ready for a baby, sometimes this is an important factor for a person. If you are deathly afraid that you will not be able to afford a new baby, then sit down to write logical reasons why you will not be able to financially support a baby. Be realistic and figure out if you can adapt finances to suit a new baby or not.
  • Are you Emotionally Ready? A baby will take on most of your strength during that first month or so of living. You will get little sleep, especially if you work outside of the home and your life will revolve around this little one. Think about your mental health, are you emotionally stable and truly capable of handling the extra mental strength a newborn will place upon you? Sit down to chat with your counselor or family to determine what’s best for you and this unborn child.

How can you Get Ready for Newborn?

In all honesty, even if you feel that you are just not ready for a baby but can adapt to this new life that will call you Mama or Daddy, then you can move on to get ready for a newborn. Make a commitment that you will be the best parent possible and put this baby as well as the other parent’s needs as a priority in your life. Prepare to know that you may have to give up some things or adjust how you do them because you are a parent to a newborn and your partner is counting on you to help not just sit back and be selfish.

Often times relationships break up when a newborn comes along because they simply didn’t discuss how the new baby will be taken care of. They didn’t discuss what each will expect from the other and they didn’t take time to financially prepare, such as purchasing diapers and other items before baby was born. If you want to have this newborn child and bring it into your life then you will have to think before you make future goals that may leave your newborn with just one parent who is pulling all of the weight and getting exhausted.

Being a parent is the most selfless act out there, and I am honored to enjoy being that person.

Once you find that you are pregnant and it wasn’t planned, you really need to do some soul searching and be honest with yourself about your character. Sometimes people are just too self-absorbed to take on the role of Mom or Dad and that’s okay, so as long as you can be honest with yourself and your loved one so that you don’t put them into a situation where they end up bitter and alone.

Read What to Expect in First Trimester and What to Expect in Second Trimester.


Whаt tо Exресt in the Second Trіmеѕtеr of Prеgnаnсу

Aftеr bаttlіng mоrnіng ѕісknеѕѕ аnd ѕurgіng hormones fоr three mоnthѕ, уоu mау ѕооn find rеlіеf from ѕоmе оf your unpleasant ѕуmрtоmѕ. Many momѕ-tо-bе rероrt that they feel better thаn еvеr durіng thе ѕесоnd trimester.

Bу this tіmе, morning sickness іѕ lеѕѕ ѕеvеrе оr disappears. Brеаѕt tеndеrnеѕѕ іѕ not аѕ noticeable and thе bаbу іѕ not уеt lаrgе еnоugh tо mаkе you fееl unсоmfоrtаblе.

Whаt tо Exресt in the Second Trіmеѕtеr of Prеgnаnсу

Thе second trіmеѕtеr іѕ a great chance to rеlаx аnd еnjоу your рrеgnаnсу. Yоur bоdу wіll be undеrgоіng many profound changes durіng thіѕ tіmе. Here аrе some thіngѕ уоu can expect:

Sore, Growing Breasts

Althоugh уоur brеаѕtѕ ѕhоuld not be аѕ tеndеr аѕ they wеrе durіng thе first trіmеѕtеr, thеу will hаvе some soreness аѕ they соntіnuе tо grоw lаrgеr. Fаt wіll bеgіn tо ассumulаtе in your brеаѕtѕ and уоur mіlk-рrоduсіng glаndѕ will gеt larger аѕ well. If уоu haven’t ѕtаrtеd wearing one yet, nоw is a gооd tіmе tо buy a good support brа.

Whаt tо Exресt in the Second Trіmеѕtеr of Prеgnаnсу

Expanding Belly

Yоur breasts aren’t the оnlу things gеttіng lаrgеr. Yоur bеllу wіll еxраnd as your baby grоwѕ bіggеr inside оf you. The circulation will increase іn your skin аѕ well, аnd this mіght cause іt to tаkе оn a dаrkеr tone. You mіght notice a dаrk colored lіnе thаt runѕ frоm уоur bеllу buttоn down to your рubіс bone.Your expanding belly саuѕеѕ your ѕkіn tо stretch. This саn cause іtсhіng. Yоu mіght nоtісе stretch marks too аѕ іt is соmmоn fоr thеm tо bеgіn fоrmіng during thе ѕесоnd trimester. These mіght bе рurрlе оr rеd ѕtrеаkѕ whеn thеу fіrѕt арреаr but thеу will fаdе оvеr time аnd become white оr flеѕh соlоrеd. Consider stretch mark cream for pregnancy.

Whаt tо Exресt in the Second Trіmеѕtеr of Prеgnаnсу


Prеgnаnсу аlѕо саuѕеѕ уоur blood vessels tо dilate аnd thіѕ can lеаd tо intermittent dіzzіnеѕѕ. You mіght bе аblе tо wаrd off dizziness by drіnkіng plenty of fluіdѕ аnd moving slowly whеn уоu ѕtаnd. Yоu might also еxреrіеnсе leg сrаmрѕ when pregnant bесаuѕе the wеіght оf thе baby саn рrеѕѕ against thе vеіnѕ thаt саrrу blооd from уоur legs. You саn work thrоugh lеg сrаmрѕ by wаlkіng or ѕtrеtсhіng your muѕсlеѕ.

Hormones Slow Down

Whеn you are іn the ѕесоnd trimester оf рrеgnаnсу, уоu аrе аt an increased rіѕk оf urіnаrу trасt іnfесtіоnѕ. Thіѕ happens bесаuѕе hоrmоnеѕ slow dоwn nоrmаl urіnе flоw аnd уоur uterus mау block уоur blаddеr frоm emptying соmрlеtеlу. If you hаvе symptoms оf a urіnаrу trасt іnfесtіоn lіkе a burnіng ѕеnѕаtіоn, раіn, оr fever, bе ѕurе to lеt your dосtоr knоw. Urіnаrу trасt іnfесtіоnѕ are lіnkеd tо аn іnсrеаѕеd іnсіdеnсе оf рrе-tеrm labor.

May Have Energy

Yоu mау fееl grеаt and have a lоt оf еnеrgу durіng your ѕесоnd trimester. This іѕ a gооd tіmе tо get things dоnе іn рrераrаtіоn fоr brіngіng bаbу hоmе. In a few months, іt wіll bе mоrе dіffісult fоr уоu to maneuver аrоund and you mіght bеgіn to hаvе mоrе unрlеаѕаnt ѕуmрtоmѕ tо deal with.

Not Every Pregnancy is Alike

It is good tо kеер іn mіnd thаt nоt all рrеgnаnt mоmѕ are аlіkе. It іѕ possible you wіll соntіnuе to hаvе mоrnіng ѕісknеѕѕ durіng уоur ѕесоnd trіmеѕtеr. Trу not tо соmраrе уоurѕеlf with other pregnant wоmеn. Continue wіth уоur mеdісаl vіѕіtѕ аnd take good саrе оf уоurѕеlf аnd уоur lіttlе one. Yоur second trіmеѕtеr аnd уоur pregnancy itself will be оvеr in a fеw ѕhоrt mоnthѕ аnd уоu will need tо bе іn gооd hеаlth and spirits tо care for your lіttlе bundlе оf jоу.


The second trimester  includes thе fоurth, fifth and ѕіxth mоnthѕ оf pregnancy. Most of thе bаbу’ѕ оrgаnѕ hаvе nоw tаkеn shape аnd are gаіnіng maturity durіng this period of time. Thе mоthеrѕ frequently fееl the mоvеmеntѕ оf the bаbу around 16 tо 20 wееkѕ оf рrеgnаnсу.

Thе еmbrуо is саllеd thе fеtuѕ durіng this ѕtаgе оf life. Thіѕ trimester is somewhat relaxing for thе mоthеrѕ аѕ thеrе are dесrеаѕеd symptoms of nаuѕеа аnd vоmіtіng, breast tеndеrnеѕѕ еtс. Thе gуnесоlоgіѕt may реrfоrm thе ‘аnоmаlу ѕсаn’ оf thе fetus аrоund thе 20th wееk оf lіfе аѕ it is a crucial tіmе to look fоr аnу possible fеtаl аnоmаlу. Always know that you have the right to refuse certain tests that your OBGYN may desire you to take, know your rights before heading into any appointment so that you are well educated and aware that you can say no.

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How to Control Pregnancy Hormones in First Trimester

Pregnancy is a stressful time in life as it is. You feel a range of new emotions and the realization that your life is changing is overwhelming. Pregnancy brings about exhaustion stress and hormonal changes that affect your mood.

In addition to hormonal changes some very important questions bother young mothers-to-be. They wonder whether they will be good parents, whether they are doing it all right, whether they will be able to manage financially.

The period when your mood swings are the most prominent is the first trimester, in particular first 6-10 weeks of your pregnancy.

How to Control Pregnancy Hormones in First Trimester

How to treat mood swings?

You should be well aware that many women have been in your state before and have experienced these mood swings. What you are feeling and experiencing is normal, but it doesn’t mean you should just live that way.

How to Control Pregnancy Hormones in First Trimester

Get plenty of rest

Fatigue is one of the reasons you get your mood swings. So sleep well, rest a lot and you might just be able to cope with them. Put unnecessary chores away and concentrate on pampering yourself instead.

How to Control Pregnancy Hormones in First Trimester

Spend time with your partner

Reassuring your partner of your love and connection and being constantly reassured in his love to you will help you move a step closer to emotional and mental sanity during the pregnancy. Spending time together strengthens your relationship, which will affect your life after the baby is born in a very positive way.

How to Control Pregnancy Hormones in First Trimester

Do more of what makes you happy

Spend time with your partner, friends or just some alone time with your hobbies. Be sure to spend time doing something for you that will affect your mood swings in a very positive way. After all, you should keep you happy and calm and this will keep your emotions at bay.

How to Control Pregnancy Hormones in First Trimester

Keep talking

Understand that your partner is going through a big change in his life as well and you both should talk about it and share your concerns. This will keep your relationship healthy and in the end you will not have any unpleasant surprises.

How to Control Pregnancy Hormones in First Trimester


It is known that exercising can help deal with stress. During the early stages of the pregnancy there are not as many restrictions as to sports. You can do yoga, go jogging or do some simple sets of exercises. Physical activity makes you feel better about yourself and this is always great! Be sure to clear physical activity ideas with your OBGYN first.

How to Control Pregnancy Hormones in First Trimester

What to do when your mood swings don’t go away?

Sometimes the periods of depression can last for weeks, and in these cases it is advised to seek professional help. Clinical depression is a common thing in women during pregnancy and the first months after childbirth. In such cases it should be treated medically. Some symptoms that may tip you off about your depressions: anxiety that doesn’t go away, sleep disorders, memory loss, short attention span, eating habits disorder.

On the early stages of pregnancy it is important to take care of your health to ensure that both your physical state and your mentality are sound and nothing threatens your baby and your relationship with people around you.

Dealing With Unplanned Pregnancy

For most pregnancy and childbirth is a joyous event, as they have planned for it, coveted the thoughts of having children and are sure that this is what they want in life and this is something they can afford at a certain stage.

However, there are times when pregnancy comes unexpectedly. Despite all the measures one might be taking to prevent it, pregnancy is still possible. And it always is a shock. When you find out you are pregnant you have many questions swarming in your mind. And quite often you do not know what to do. If you are single and don’t have your husband or boyfriend to rely on it gets even more difficult. And to deal with these new emotions and this life-changing condition you should follow a certain set of steps.

Dealing With Unplanned Pregnancy

Step One: Immediate

First, you should visit a doctor for confirmation. Before you make a decision as to what to do next you should know that your habits might hurt the baby, so you should stop smoking and drinking alcohol, stop taking any medications that haven’t been cleared by your doctor and start taking care of yourself.

Next, you should ask yourself, and discuss this with your partner if you have one, how you can get ready emotionally, financially and physically for this child?? How will you mix your career with being a mother in the future? What will have to be done before the child is born? How will having a child affect your family and do you have people who will be there for you throughout the pregnancy and raising a child?

Dealing With Unplanned Pregnancy

Step Two: Decision

After you have evaluated thoughts, what needs to be done and how you will start to prepare for this child, you can move forward in this pregnancy. If you do not have a partner, create a support network of people who will be there for you in your time of need. Newlyweds usually need some time after the wedding to bond and get closer. Before the arrival of the child try to spend most time together and strengthen your relationship. When the child is born the attention is primarily on him and raising him, so the spouses who are not sure of their relationship may feel further away from each other.

Find people who have gone through what you are going through and talk to them They might have some great helpful advice for you! Remember, you are not alone! And soon, there will be even more people who love and cherish you!

I Saw, I Fell!

Do you believe in love at first sight?

I did as an emotional teenager.  I watched old Hollywood musicals on TV, read Wuthering Heights with a tear-streamed face, and knew the words to every sappy song on the radio.

Then I didn’t.  We understand a little more about love as we get older, and as we realize that songs, books and movies only play with our emotions for a little while as we form our real lives, we understand that real love builds over time. That’s why they’re called relationships. Because we need time to relate in order to build love.

One writer at ParentInfluence shares her story of love at first sight, with her first grandchild.

Now some may argue that love at first sight is that special feeling mothers have at childbirth, but I say no! Love at first sign of a bump; surely love at first kick, but the love is there well before first sight. Personally, I felt love at first wave of nausea and bloat, but I was crazy about pregnancy, so that’s just me. Being pregnant is a nine-month mini relationship with your baby before you meet. It’s kind of the internet dating portion of parenting, and birth is the first actual face to face meeting. So unless a mother is telling her adoption story, I’m going to argue against love at first sight with your own child.

No, I was sure love at first sight was a romantic myth. Until I experienced it when I met my first grandchild. I was there when she was born, and when the excitement, relief, fatigue, and all the other emotions that accompany a birth subsided and I was home in bed that night, something happened to me that I had only even heard of once or twice. When I closed my eyes, I could see her face. It was as clear as if she were in the room…so clear I couldn’t sleep, or even relax. Her image was on the back of my eyelids, my heart was pounding and I had this feeling of complete joy! I knew I would never be the same, as I now had this new love, which was more intense than I could have imagined.

This was over eleven years ago, and I can remember the event as perfectly now as I did that night. In some ways, it is clearer than the memory of the birth itself, and here is why: You don’t just become a grandmother. The prerequisite is that you are a mother. That same mother that fell in love with her baby in utero, who saw her face at birth, is now still parenting; though with an adult child.

During the pregnancies of your children, you are very excited for the coming baby, but you are still viewing this event through the mom lens.  You worry about the health of your daughter or daughter-in-law. You fuss over details as you help the new mom get ready. In the delivery room, you are excited, but worry about the medical aspects and the pain and anxiety she is going through. This is the birth of HER baby, HER experience; and you are thrilled for her. You are a happy mom of a parent. You make sure everyone is fine, stay out of the way so bonding of the new family can take place as you breathe a sigh of relief. Then it happens… the baby is looking at YOU. For the first time, it’s just the two of you.  And a love is born. Right there…at first sight.

One writer at ParentInfluence shares her story of love at first sight, with her first grandchild.

I now have five grandchildren, and each of these relationships are unique, as they should be. There are days I feel that the love we have is the most amazing bond there is, and days I worry we are not as close as I would like. I will always remember with awe, however, the day I became Mimi.

About the Author – Diana Fox

Diana is a former early childhood educator who loves writing, all needlecrafts, playing the harp, and just being silly with her large family. She enjoys traveling, then returning to her country life in New Hampshire with her husband, collie, cat and chickens.

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Different Ways to Teaching Siblings to Get Along

Teaching siblings to get along can take some time, but with a few tips and tricks you can achieve this goal! Sibling rivalry is a real thing, and sometimes it is very hard for children to see eye to eye.

Nothing beats growing up and your sister or brother becoming your best friend. Someone you can count on and trust fully! Below are ways to help teach your children that they can be friends with each other!

Tips for Teaching Siblings To Be Friends

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Tips for Teaching Siblings To Be Friends

Role Model: If you have siblings yourself, you know that sometimes you might not see eye to eye, but you still have to be respectful and loving. Lead by example, as your children will watch how you act with your brother or sisters. So make sure to show family is important, spend time with them, and always talk in a positive manner.

Positive Praise: Make sure to focus on each child’s strengths! If one child does great at sports, compliment them. If the other is very artistic, praise them on their masterpieces. Make sure that you are sending out positive praise for their unique talents. This will show your children that they are each good in different areas and that is great.

Don’t Compare: Don’t compare your children in a negative way. Don’t say, “Arnold is so great at running the 50 meter dash, if you tried harder you could  be just as good or better.” That is a way to create fights between your children. No matter what the instance is don’t compare.

Sharing: Make sure your children learn how to share their toys and electronics. By taking set turns it teaches them that all things are equal. You can set a timer and for that set time they can play or watch their show on tv, and then when it goes off it is their siblings turn. This is a great way for them to learn how to share and it shows no favoritism.

Kindness: Teach your children manners and being kind to each other and everyone else. Learning to say thank you, and do kind task for others is a great attribute in children. You could go around the table at dinner and share something they appreciate about one another, this is a great way for your children to see that they do love each other.

Personal Time with Mom and Dad: Make sure you give each child set time where it is just you and them. Take them out for dinner, go get donuts, head to the park, whatever they enjoy doing. Making sure each child gets time with the parents alone lets them know they are special and you value them. Do this with each child on a regular basis. Letting your children know how much you love them is so important, and they won’t feel they have to fight for your attention.

I hope these simple tips can help. It takes some kids longer to get along, and some love each other from day one. Just love your children equally and speak positive praise over each one, and work at showing that their siblings are special too, and in time they could become best friends.

About the Author

Kelsey is a freelance writer for bloggers! A country girl from Kansas, who enjoys spending time with family! You can see what Kelsey has available for content in her Facebook Group.