That’s A Demand
Any writing that begins with a sentence like this is sure to elicit a strong response. There are methods to ask family members to perform things for you that will result in a more pleasant outcome. Please, for example, don’t use that magic word.
Who in the world does this relative think they are to tell this individual how to live their life? It’s clear to us that the other person in this discussion is much more mature than we could ever hope to be in this scenario.