We all get angry from time to time, but that doesn’t mean you have to lash out in anger at everyone. Today we’re going to share some tips that will help you cool off when you’re angry. These tips will ensure that you keep your relationships strong, even during those heightened emotional times together.
When you’re angry all positive and rational thinking goes out the window. It’s best that you use our tips to learn new methods to cool off when you’re angry so that you can regain some self-control during these emotionally heightened moments.
Talk to Yourself
Talk to yourself internally about what’s going on and how you’re feeling. Tell yourself to calm down, and talk slowly to yourself internally. This means blocking out any external noise, such as the person speaking who is upsetting you or anything like that.
Another way people have started to control their temper is to do a countdown. Some people have opted to count to 10 out loud while others have opted to count insider their head much like the above recommendation of talking to yourself.
A very simple way to cool off when you’re angry is to walk away! If someone, even kids, are upsetting you then you can choose to just walk away. If you’re walking away from your kids please make sure they’re in safe space before you just walk away from them and then go take a little cool off session before coming back to the situation.
Replace Thoughts with Positive Thoughts
Often times we get angry because our emotions are heightened or we heard a trigger word, or we simply are over tired. When we’re not at our best emotional state, it’s easier to get angry and lash out to someone even if the situation doesn’t call for such a negative response.
You can try to replace your negative thoughts with some positive ones. Get yourself back to a more rational state of mind by slowing down your breathing, thoughts, and actions. Pause in the moment to get your thoughts and feelings back to a more rational state of mind.
Learning to cool off when you’re angry is a skill that everyone should practice more frequently. This can help you be a more mindful parent, and help you be a better friend and partner in life. These tips will help you get started in being calmer during a difficult situation so that you can be better about effectively communicating a solution during trying times.