Cooking catch 22
When you marry someone, you marry their family too, for better or worse. Sometimes that can be a great experience, where you gain more fabulous people to gather into your circle of support. Sometimes it can mean putting up with some truly annoying people, just because you happened to fall in love with their son or daughter.
The whole dilemma is summed up very nicely in this tweet about food. You want to compliment your mother-in-law, but not so much that it seems as if you’re making a dig at your wife. It’s a delicate balance, and I’m assuming that the author of this tweet has tipped over to the wrong side once or twice.