5 Mistakes Every Parent Makes

I am for the first time raising a teenager stage of parenthood and boy is it rough. I keep being reminded that she is only 15 and there’s more to come, but seriously, how much harder can it get? I say the wrong things. I make too many things a life lesson and I can easily get my teen to shut down in 2.2 seconds. I seriously feel some days like a failure to parenthood, but I realize this feeling is not something I have to be alone in.

Many parents feel the same way. Be it, mom or dad, we all get that parenting guilt trap going on where we feel like our teen is going to hate us forever, be scarred for life or worse. REality is, our teens are much more resilient than we give them credit for. Teens have this inept ability to forgive and move on from our mishaps as parents. Teens are built to be the same child you raised, just with a new set of thoughts.

While I venture towards this year of raising a 15-year-old, I am found realizing that these 5 mistakes every parent makes throughout the days of child rearing and it’s okay.

5 Mistakes Every Parent Makes

5 Mistakes Every Parent Makes

Making Everything a Life Lesson

If I had a quarter for everytime I open my mouth in response to something my oldest says to make it into some lesson, I would be rich! I know better than to do this, but my mama brain always goes towards making my reply something that teaches something. You know, a life lesson that my teen already knows?! I swear, sometimes her reply of, “Mom I know. I am not dumb!” just is a kick in the gut because I know she knows but still, the Mama in me must reply with some lesson versus just listening to her.

I am too Busy

This has been something I have been getting pretty bad at lately. With the higher workload, trying to make up for back due to bills and really figure out a balance between work at home, school, raising three kids, having a boyfriend and weekly appointments, I am too busy. Reality is, I am not too busy. I should never reply that I am too busy because that’s the one time your teen may actually open up to you and a reply of “I’m too busy” will shut them down in 2.2 seconds without a chance to hear them later on about the same thing.

Your Sibling is Younger and Doesn’t do This

Another mistake I make and many other parents who are raising more than one child make. It’s a reply that is meant to drive your older child to be better, do better and realize that their teen brain isn’t thinking clearly. In reality, this reply makes your teen feel like an idiot, less than and annoyed with you to the point that they don’t care and will continue doing worse than their sibling just to make you more frustrated because they can.

Your Friend isn’t a Good Person

While you may have every right to believe and feel that your teen’s friend isn’t a good person, telling your teenager that information is probably going to drive them to hang out with the said person even more. I have always been that parent who gives every child a chance, but it seems once my first born turned 14, I have been more guarded of her friendships than I ever was before. Learn to trust that your teen will make the right decisions in friendships, listen to them about EVERY friend (even the ones you think are bad) and try to hear what they are saying. This friend may not be “bad” but dealing with troubles far beyond anything you can imagine.

Can’t you Just Stop Talking

Since I am blessed with the talking gene, as I call it, from my father’s side of the family so are my children. My teen can go days without uttering many words and then have a really awesome day where she will talk and talk, meaning her brothers can’t even get a word in edgewise. This drives me bonkers sometimes because I want all three kiddos to share their thoughts, so I respond to STOP TALKING PLEASE and well that just fires back at me with a teen who shuts down 100%. Teens are dramatic about their responses, try not be the dramatic parent and think through what you say.

Teens are Dramatic. Period.

Teens are dramatic about their responses, try not be the dramatic parent and think through what you say. It doesn’t matter if you have the most intelligent human being on Earth as your teen child, those teenager years make brains work differently. It doesn’t matter how many times you try to get through to them about a bad person, a bad event or a life lesson you feel they need to hear again, your teen will not care what you have to say in that moment. Surely you can take time, as I do, to spend 15-30 minutes with your teen at the end of each day so that they have that time to open up but there’s no guarantee you will stop making these mistakes listed above.

Let’s Try to Avoid These Mistakes

We are imperfect human beings raising children who are near adults. As parents, we have to learn to let go and trust that mistakes will be made, friendships will be broken and bad things may happen, but it will work out in the end and your teen will be just as fine as you were as a teenager. If we worry less and listen more, our teens will make better decisions overall.

7 Tricks For A Home That’s Heaven Scent

Every home tends to struggle with odors at one time or another, whether this is from pets, kids playing outside, or the bins. However, you don’t have to put up with these odors – there are tricks you can use that will help you to make your home smell incredible 24/7. Read on to find out what they are:

7 Tricks For A Home

Utilize Aromatherapy

Aromatherapy is one of the nicest and healthiest ways to make your home smell good. Some people don’t realize that candles bought from the store can be toxic, due to the ingredients in them. By purchasing high quality essential oils and using them in a diffuser, you can ensure your home smells amazing and enjoy the calming and uplifting benefits of aromatherapy.

Start Using More Natural Cleaning Agents

Instead of using cleaning agents filled with toxic stuff, start using more natural agents. You can look at sites like CleanHappens.com to get an idea of the clothes detergent you can find, and you can even look online for your own recipes. Why not create your own furniture polish using a carrier oil like olive oil, your favorite essential oil, and a small amount of vinegar? You’ll shine up your furniture and avoid stinking the house out with furniture polish.

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Simmer Herbs On The Stove

If you want a gorgeous smell to permeate the home and cut through the smell that lingers at the moment, simmering herbs on the stove is one of the best ways to do it. Some of the best herbs for the job include lavender and mint, and you can also add citrus to the mix to make it smell fresh. Alternatively, you can cook something yummy like cookies or bread. The smell will wander through your home in the best way, so it’s perfect for when you’re hosting a party.

Clean Out Your Drains

If you have a funky smell in your home, it could very well be your drains. Usually, a combination of vinegar and baking soda can clean them out, but you’ll need to be careful. If the smell is seriously bad, you may have an underlying problem and need to call in a pro.

Get A Gentle Dog/Cat Spray

Pets smell. We love them to bits, but there’s no two ways about it. A gentle dog/cat spray can usually help to make them smell better. You can find leave in shampoos that you simply brush through, so there’s no need to put them in the dreaded tub. Just make sure you read reviews and ensure the spray is gentle enough for their skin.

Make Carpet Freshener Your Friend

It isn’t always enough to vacuum the carpet. Carpet freshener before vacuuming can make the world of difference and really get rid of those lingering nasty smells.

Cotton Ball Perfume Bombs

Grab your favorite oil or perfume, and create cotton ball perfume bombs that you can strategically place around the house. You can put them behind cushions and sofas, in flower arrangements, and anywhere else you like. Just don’t forget where you put them!

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Disney•Pixar’s INCREDIBLES 2 Plus Incredibles Gift Guide #Incredibles2

Watch out summer of 2018, because this family that kept my sons glued to the movies when I needed time to work from home is back and better than ever. Disney Pixar’s Incredibles 2 is releasing in theaters in June 2018. I am so excited that I am able to share a sneak peek trailer with you all, enjoy!

Disney•Pixar’s INCREDIBLES 2 that opens in theatres everywhere June 15th, 2018

ABOUT THE MOVIE

Everyone’s favorite family of superheroes is back in “Incredibles 2” – but this time Helen (voice of Holly Hunter) is in the spotlight, leaving Bob (voice of Craig T. Nelson) at home with Violet (voice of Sarah Vowell) and Dash (voice of Huck Milner) to navigate the day-to-day heroics of “normal” life. It’s a tough transition for everyone, made tougher by the fact that the family is still unaware of baby Jack-Jack’s emerging superpowers. When a new villain hatches a brilliant and dangerous plot, the family and Frozone (voice of Samuel L. Jackson) must find a way to work together again—which is easier said than done, even when they’re all Incredible.

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Disney•Pixar’s COCO Now Playing Plus Ultimate Coco Gift Guide

I am super excited about Coco playing in theaters now, obviously, I love Disney movies, but there’s an animated short that is to be shown for a limited time before Coco? For a limited time see Olaf’s Frozen Adventure, an animated short playing before Coco in theaters everywhere!

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I noticed when driving by our local theater that Coco was playing and to my surprise, after telling my teenager that I wasn’t quite sure what Coco was all about, I came home to go through my email to find these clips! I was super excited, but now I know that I must watch this film. Being a Disney family, we try to catch every new Disney movie because Disney always does a great job with their films. Since we love Disney so much, I wanted to share some clips for Coco and a sneak peek at Olaf’s Frozen Adventure too.

Olaf's Frozen Adventure Sneak Peek

Sneak Peak at Olaf’s Frozen Adventure

Anything to Declare? Clip from Coco

A Great, Great Rescue Clip from Coco

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Giving Your Kid A Santa-stic Christmas

Christmas is a time for family. And, as a child, the festive period is somehow even more magical. Maybe it’s the novelty and newness of this special time of year, or maybe it’s the beauty of believing in Santa Claus. Whatever the case, you should let this childlike mindset reignite your love for the festive season too. Your goal should be to give your kid a “Santa-stic” Christmas. Here are some pieces of advice to help you on that mission.

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Set traditions.

The best way to make Christmas special for your kid is to create some family traditions. Whilst they might say they’re most excited for presents and chocolate, every child loves spending some quality time with their family (they just might not admit it for fear of losing their street cred). Traditions don’t have to be complex or expensive. You could all watch a Christmas film together in the evening or have a special festive breakfast first thing in the morning. Find something over which you and the family can bond.

Give and receive fantastic gifts.

As tough as it is for kids to grasp, Christmas is about giving as well as receiving. Obviously, we understand the pain because we were all young once. All you could think about was racing to the living room on Christmas morning and tearing into those presents waiting for you underneath the tree. Of course, it can help your child to appreciate this festive season more if they give as well as receiving; it’ll teach them that Christmas is about sharing the joy and making others happy too. Your kid might not have money of their own yet but you can take them out shopping to help them at least pick out gifts for members of the family. It’ll teach them something about the goodness of giving to others.

Of course, helping your child choose presents for others might be easier than choosing a present for them. You should definitely ask them what sort of things they have their eye on this year to avoid disappointing them but you probably want to surprise your little one too; it’s always a satisfying feeling to see their face light up. Still, you have to find that perfect gift first. It can be quite a stressful experience. You should either get them lots of little presents or one big one that’ll blow them away. The latter could make Christmas a little more memorable for them. If you want tips on choosing kids dirt bikes and other cool items that they’ll remember (and hopefully use) for years to come then you should do some research. Be a little bold with your gift-giving this year.

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Throw a party.

You might want to set the date a few days before or after Christmas but there’s nothing like a festive party to get your child and the whole family in good spirits. You could put on some games for the children so as to get them all in the spirit for the big day and the adults could drink wine in the kitchen. That sounds like the perfect Christmas to us.

Days Out That Really Are Fun For ALL The Family!

It can often feel as though whenever you come across something that is designed to be fun “for all the family” that it’s actually just designed to keep the kids entertained and will almost certainly result in parents sitting around ready to fall asleep at any moment. This applies to films, games, toys, activities, and just about anything else. Of course, there’s not always something wrong with that. After all, kids need things that are just for them as much as anyone else, and most parents understand pretty clearly just how important it is to allow kids to have their time. But sometimes you just want to do something that you can all enjoy, even if it’s just for a little while. After all, if it’s something that you can enjoy too then you’re going to be able to get stuck in and engage with your child much more effectively. Not only that but it will make the whole experience a lot less stressful for you and make you far more likely to want to take your kids out for those kinds of activities again. With that in mind, here are a few days out and activities that really are fun for ALL the family.

The aquarium

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It doesn’t matter who you are or how many times you’ve been around the block; there is just something magical about an aquarium. It can often feel as though you’ve stepped into a whole other world which, to a certain extent, you have. There are things to see that you’d otherwise never experience in person and new things to learn around every corner. Aquariums are often designed with entire families in mind, so it’s not just about the kids. Besides, there isn’t anyone on the face of the earth who could watch a shark swim right past them and not feel a sense of awe and wonder at it. There are usually aquariums in just about every city but finding ones that are really worth visiting can be tough. Check out this page with the results for “SeaQuest aquariums near me“. That way you’ll be able to find the best possible aquatic day out for you and your family.

Go-karts

There’s just something primal about wanting to go fast. Kids know the feeling well, and anyone who’s ever had the temptation to open up the engine of their car and really build up some speed knows it too. Which is why go-karting is such a fantastic activity because it gives the whole family a chance to indulge in that kind of activity without having to worry about getting yourself into any kind of dangerous situation. Sure, you’re probably going to have a bit more control over things that the kids but there are often different tracks for every level, and even if they don’t break any kind of speed records, they’re going to end up having an absolute whale of a time because it’s impossible not to feel like you’re picking up incredible amounts of speed when you’re behind the wheel of a go-kart.

The pool

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If you’re not interested in spending a lot of money on some kind of complicated activity then why not just take the kids for a trip to the local pool. The wonderful thing about any day out with kids is that they have the amazing ability to turn anything into a game. All they need is a large body of water and a few floats, and they’ll almost certainly be able to come up with a whole bunch of hilarious games for you all to play. Not only that but a lot of pools have things like floats, inflatables, and other fun things to play with. That’s not even mentioning those pools with waterslides that you can all race down at high speed before crashing into the water with as big a splash as possible!

A day at the beach

Then again, why spend any money when one of the most enjoyable places in the world is totally free and just waiting for you to come and find it. The beach is one of those things that you almost can’t believe is totally natural since it seems perfectly designed to be fun for the entire family. The kids can build sandcastles, fish in rock pools, or splash about in the waves, while grown-ups can do everything from relaxing in the sun with a good book to heading out into the deep water on a board ready to catch some serious surf. The fact that you and your family can have this much fun without having to spend any money is honestly amazing, and it’s the kind of opportunity that you should take as often as possible.

A family movie night

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Of course, if you want to have fun with your family, that doesn’t mean that you need to get out and do something dramatic out in the world. Sometimes you just need to bring the fun to you. Why not get everyone cuddled up on the couch, get a big bowl of popcorn ready, and have yourself a movie marathon? You can each choose a movie so that you can all be sure that you’ll be watching at least one thing that you actually enjoy. It’s a simple way to spend your time, but if the weather’s horrible and you don’t have that much money to spend, it’s often the perfect family activity.

Sure, not every activity needs to be perfect for the whole family, but it’s always much nicer if everyone can enjoy themselves as much as possible rather than having to worry about getting bored and frustrated when your kids really want to you get involved with what they’re doing. Of course, these are far from the only options available to you. There are plenty of things that you and your family can do for fun; it’s just a matter of figuring out what you all enjoy and embracing that. If you find something that you all love then you could end up discovering a whole new family tradition that will stick with you for years to come.

 

Sporting Ruses Not Even Sherlock Holmes Would See Through

Most kids fall into one of two categories. They either love sports, or they hate the stuff. This has been the case for time immemorial, and we can all remember which group we fit into. If you didn’t enjoy sports, physical education would become a traumatic experience. There certainly wasn’t any chance of sports in your free time.

Once upon a time, though, that wasn’t so much of a problem. Even kids who didn’t love sport would go outside of an evening and play with their friends. Now, with the possibilities of games consoles and television streaming, it’s harder than ever to get non-sporty kids outside. And, who can blame them when there’s so much fun stuff to do? But, with childhood obesity now up to one in every five children, it’s crucial you encourage activity in your child.

The good news is, not every sport emits the groans that, say, a suggestion of football might do. In fact, some sporting activities won’t even seem like sports to your kids. Here, we’re going to take a look at some prime examples. Encourage your child to do any of these three activities, and they’ll exercise without even noticing.

Skipping

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 The chances are that you won’t have much trouble encouraging your child to skip. It’s a standard playground game and something that most children will do of their own volition. Yet, jumping rope is one of the most efficient forms of exercise. So much so that your child stands to burn ten calories for every minute they skip. Just half an hour of this could do them a world of good. If you haven’t already, buy them a skipping rope, and encourage them to play with it whenever you can.

Trampolining

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Most kids would love the chance to own a trampoline. It’s just one of those things on the bucket list of just about anyone under the age of 13. And, it might be a good idea to stop resisting them. Trampolining is another incredibly efficient exercise. It uses everything from leg muscles, to those in the stomach. While not as efficient as skipping for calorie loss, this is still fantastic for getting muscles working. Bear in mind that buying a trampoline isn’t as easy as getting a jump rope. You’ll need to ensure you purchase the safest option possible. You can visit Parenting Pod for more information on the best options out there, or do your own research. Once you find a model which fits your need, don’t hesitate to invest.

Horse Riding

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The majority of little girls, and some boys too, dream of the chance for horse riding lessons. As such, it shouldn’t take much convincing to get them to take up this physical activity. At 200 calories per 45 minute ride, this doesn’t have quite the same calorie burning capabilities. But, it’s still physical exercise. And, beggars can’t be choosers when unsporty kids are involved. So, make their horse riding dreams come true, and help them get fit, too.

 

Cool Hacks To Turn Your Home Into A Movie Theatre

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 Our family loves going to the movies, but it’s just so darn expensive these days. The tickets alone are a rip-off, and enough to put us off altogether. If you’re finding it hard to justify paying for the cinema, then don’t worry, here are some cool hacks you can try to turn your living room into a movie theatre.

Hook Up A Projector

One of the main reasons you go to a movie theatre is because they play your favourite films on a massive screen. This is something most people think is hard to recreate at home with a TV. Well, that’s true, you will struggle to get a TV that’s big enough to fit across your whole living room wall. If you did find one, it would cost a fortune. But, the trick is to copy exactly what movie theatres do. They don’t have a giant screen, they show their films through a projector. Well, you can hook your living room up with a projector and create the proper movie theatre experience. Aside from a good projector, all you really need is ample space on your wall to fit the projector screen. Dim the lights, turn the projector on, and you’ve got the perfect setting for an amazing film night.

Create A Movie Library

Naturally, what sets a movie theatre apart from a regular old house? The long list of films they’re showing of course! Luckily, there are some easy little hacks you can use to turn your living room into a movie library without having to buy loads of DVDs. All you have to do is gain access to an on-demand TV service that provides you with a back catalogue of movies to watch at any time. A lot of cable providers do this nowadays, meaning you can watch all the movies from movie channels whenever you want. There are also services like Netflix or Hulu that do this too. In one simple step, you’ve got hundreds of movies at your disposal – your own movie library!

Implement Surround Sound

Another key difference between your house and a movie theatre is the sound quality. In fact, as an avid movie fan, I’d say this is probably the biggest difference. You can recreate picture quality at home, but it’s very hard to replicate the amazing sound quality you experience at the movies. The secret is tackling things from all angles – literally! Get yourself a surround sound system so you can hear the film from all four corners of your room. You’ll be amazed at how much this improves your watching experience, and surround sound systems usually have great quality audio. It will feel less like you’re at home and more like you’re in a movie theatre.

Get Some Snacks!

Finally, round off your experience with some snacks – especially popcorn! I suggest actually popping corn in a pan with the lid on. Okay, this isn’t one of my coolest food hacks, but it’s definitely something you can do to create the cinema experience. This gives you that nice warm popcorn you get at the cinema, and you can flavour it to your tastes too.

Once everything is set up you’ll have a mini movie theatre in your living room! Now, enjoy movie nights with the family, without having to overpay for tickets or popcorn.