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What A Pet Can Teach Your Kids

If you have a family, there are high chances you have a family pet as well. It’s part of the perfect packaged deal: kids we love and a pet to complete the circle in a cute and friendly ways. Dogs and cats can be our best friends, and having a hutch in the backyard means we have an excuse to spend a lot more time out there. That means that having a pet can teach us a lot more about ourselves, and allow us to brush up on our people skills. For children, this works in double time due to the developmental process. Here’s a few of the best talents a child can pick up from interacting with a four legged friend.

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Plenty of Compassion

Guinea pigs, rabbits, and hamsters are some of the smallest creatures we can keep in our houses, and they’re cute and fluffy enough for a kid to love unconditionally. The bonding that can take place is one that’ll last forever, and offers a good model for any future friend making.

Sometimes our kids can surprise us, and the amount of empathy they can gain just from cleaning out a cage without being asked, or refilling bowls and water bottles is immense; it also teaches boundaries. Picking up these basic need skills can help them understand what they’re feeling better, and get them to be more considerate of others as well.

Responsibility

Self control is something we all need to get a little more of, and having a small furry friend who relies upon your for everything is a good way of learning this, and learning it fast.  Even when you have healthy and natural treats to give out, like those of Betsy Farms, too many is still bad for your pet’s health.

A dog is one of the most reliant pets that you can have, and they love us with all of their pure hearts. However, kindness can sometimes go a little too far when we want to repay this devotion. Learning how to temper treat time allows kids to understand action consequences, and what they can do to avoid them in the first place.

A Few More Social Skills

We all talk to our pets, whether it be in a baby voice or a full blown conversation, so let your kids use this to their advantage. Having a dog can teach us how to interact with others, and when and where to smile, if you’re not very good at keeping that up. This works especially well for kids who are a bit lonelier, as sometimes a pet can be an only friend.

Coming home to a pet makes us feel happier and more comfortable when we’re around the house, so the same goes for when we’re outside. Taking a dog for a walk can give a kid a boost to their confidence as they have someone with them that they don’t have to interact with on a human skill, but can still practice on.

Ways to Deal with Children With Social Anxiety

If you are wondering if your child might suffer from social anxiety, then read below to see if your child fits. Social anxiety in children is a fear or phobia related to struggling interacting with others or being the center of attention. Children might become quiet, extra shy, do not voice their fears or issues they might be feeling, and even cry and ask to leave.

Social anxiety is real, and your child might even begin to feel nauseated, complain of stomachaches when out, headaches and more. Your child can learn to overcome these fears, below I will share some ways to deal with your child and their social anxiety!

These tips can help your child to work through and overcome their social anxiety over time. It is very normal for children to go through a phase of being shy, and they normally grow out of it.

Ways to Deal with Children With Social Anxiety

Managing Social Anxiety in Your Child

Teach Child About Social Anxiety: If you find that your child might be suffering from social anxiety, take time to talk with them. Explain that anxiety is normal and we all experience it in our lives. Our body is feeling like we are in danger, but there is no danger present, with social anxiety.

Don’t Downplay Their Feelings: Social anxiety is very real, and those fears can’t be turned off instantly. Do not downplay your child’s feelings, or force your child to do something or talk to someone if they don’t want. It can be frustrating for the parents, but don’t get upset of your child because they are fearful in social settings.

Empathize or Sympathize: If you have struggled with social anxiety you can sympathize with your child and tell them how you overcame. If you don’t have any experience with social anxiety, then empathize when them. Listen to how they feel when they get around big groups, and be supportive. Teach them that by breathing deep, and  slowly trying to talk here and there can help them to overcome the hurdle. Then maybe they won’t feel so anxious.

Play Dates: Start small by inviting a friend over for your child to play with. Then once they feel comfortable, maybe try having a play date at their friends house. Go the first time if your child feels anxious, and slowly work towards leaving them alone at the play date. This can help them work towards overcoming their anxiety. It is a slow process but in time you will see improvement.

Go Places: Take your child out and go to the library, park, or somewhere else they enjoy. Then let them learn to play or do an activity without you right next to them. Start small by standing behind them, then take a few steps back. Just let them know that they can’t sit on your lap, and just communicate along the way. Don’t just go hide, because if they can’t see you they will panic. Just keep the communication open. Maybe the 2nd or 3rd visit, say you are going to go sit on the bench and show them where it is at. They can still see if they need you.

Just remember this could take time for your little one to feel comfortable. After a little while you might see some good improvement. So be patient and just know they will overcome it.

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