Ways to Raise a Happier Child

I think as parents we want our children to grow up to be the best version of themselves.  Being a happy, loving, kind, determined child. I have seen over the years that every child has their own personality that begins to bloom as they grow up. Some are just happy from the get go and smile non-stop, while others might be a bit quieter or shy. Here are some tips to keep your child happy and content. These tips are great for keeping your child happy or helping them step out of their shell a bit.

You Can’t Force Your Child to Be Happy

I know that might sounds strange for a post about raising a happy child. But we as parents can force our child to be happy at the end of the day. However with some of the tools and tips below you can help show them how they can be happy, and let them choose if they decide to!

Tips to Raise a Happy Child

Raising a Happy and Content Child

Role Model

Be a role model for your child. Choose to find the good in things, have some good laughs and be silly with your kids and loved ones. They will watch you live a relaxed and happy lifestyle and could choose to follow that.

Play Dates

Make sure your child has play dates if possible with children their own age. This is a great way for them to feel like they fit in, share some fun play time and hopefully be very fun for your little one.


Make sure to praise your child for the things they do. Picking up toys on their own, listening, any achievements, etc. This is a great way for them to see you are proud of them. If they fail at something make sure to tell them you are still proud of them for trying. Don’t only praise successes but praise for the effort of trying. This shows no matter what you are proud of them!

Teach Them How To Be Grateful

Make sure to foster teaching your child to be grateful for the things around them. From the clothes they wear, family members, home, toys, etc. By teaching your child to be grateful will allow them to have a better more positive outlook on life! And in that can lead to a more happy outlook!

Teach Optimism

Being optimistic about life is something you have to work at. It is so easy to see the negative sides to situations over the positive. Try and help your child see the good in any circumstance or situation that comes their way!

Life Skills Every Child Needs to Learn

Life skills are something we as parents need to take the time to teach our children! I have created a list of life skill that we need to teach them as they grow up and hit the appropriate ages to learn. Life skills are tools your child needs to know to be successful in life, they don’t teach all of these skills at school! Some of the skills is knowing how to do laundry, cooking, knowing who to call when there is an emergency, etc.

It is up to us as the parents to take the time and teach them the valuable life skills that will make their adult life a lot easier, when they decide to leave the nest. You want your child to be able to thrive on their own, and have success, and by teaching these life skills it will help prepare them!

Sometimes you might find it is easier to complete the task yourself, then to designate your child doing it. But by doing that, we are taking away valuable teaching moments. Don’t rob your child because it is quicker if you do it yourself. Make sure that as a parent we take the time to help teach our kids valuable life skills!

List of Life Skills to Teach Your Child

List of Life Skills to Teach Your Child

These life skills listed below range from around two years and up, so obviously your fifteen year old should be able to brush their own teeth. I wanted to create a nice list, so that it can benefit kids of all ages. This is a great way to look over the list and keep it in mind if a situation arises in the future! These truly skim the surface, but it will give you a good idea of where to start, if you are unsure.

  1. Groom themselves – brush teeth, comb hair, bath, etc.
  2. Play safely alone.
  3. Clean up room and do chores around the home.
  4. Minor yard work.
  5. Minor home improvements.
  6. Check oil on car, put gas in, air in tires, etc.
  7. Know how to manage money, and keep a budget.
  8. Go grocery shopping and clothes shopping on their own.
  9. Know who to call in case of an emergency.
  10. Be able to help or fully do laundry.
  11. Know how to take public transportation.
  12. Pay bills like insurance on car, rent, etc.
  13. Sit quietly when in class or other situations where it is required.
  14. Have manners to others.
  15. How to Vote.
  16. How to pick out ripe produce at grocery store.
  17. Know their full name, address, phone number, and other important details.
  18. How to communicate properly with others.
  19. Feed and water pets.
  20. Know how to ride a bike, roller skate, etc.
  21. Understands stranger danger.
  22. Simple mending and sewing if needed.
  23. Understands healthy and balanced meals and can plan one.
  24. Can follow rules and not break them.
  25. Can create a resume and apply for job on own.
  26. Can be dependable when it comes to work and showing up on time.
  27. Knows how to take care of themselves if they get sick.
  28. Will ask for help if they need it.
  29. Controls their temper if they are angry.
  30. Understands you have to work for your money to pay bills.

List of Life Skills to Teach Your Child

These are just skimming the surface of life skills you need to teach. We might overlook these simple tasks we do each day, but we have to teach them to our children. All too often we overlook teaching our children to cook, and then they are left eating out at fast food places, or tossing stuff in the microwave because they don’t know. Or they overdraft their bank account, and don’t get why they get charged. Take the time and teach your child from when they are young and even after they leave the nest, all these valuable life skills!

Help Your Kids Move Into Their First Home

It’s always a difficult and emotional time when your first kid moves out of the home to gain their independence. That might be to go off to college, but chances are they won’t come back after this. Instead, they’ll start looking for their own home and their own place to live. This can mean renting a place or buying their first home, but they will definitely need your help to do this. Here are a few steps you can take to ensure that they don’t have any issues getting their first home.

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Give Them A Loan

If you want to make it as easy as possible for your kids buying their first home, you should think about giving them a loan. This must be treated as a gift payment, otherwise, it can be taxed to death. When you give your kids a loan, it means they’ll be able to put down a larger deposit on the property. In doing so, they should be able to open up some of the better mortgage deals on the market. This is going to make the house easier to pay off. The only issue you’ll have to deal with is that it might take a little while before they are in a position where they can pay you back. However, the benefit is that it provides some financial levity to your kid.

Kitting It Out

One of the other financial issues when buying a new home is kitting it out, as you probably already know. The answer to this problem is to recommend that your kid rents rather than buys appliances. By doing this, they can reduce the overall cost of setting up their home and instead pay it little by little. Most kids will probably be unaware that appliance rental is even an option, so you’ll have to recommend this too them.

Tips to Help Kids Move into First Home

Buy it As An Investment

Of course, there is another way that you could help your kids financially when they are buying a new home, and that’s to buy it yourself as an investment. If you do this, then you can charge your kid rent, making money off the property while still giving them a place where they can live independently. If you do this, it’s important to remember that the home will still be your kid’s not yours. As such you can’t tell them how they should use it, except in a way that a landlord would guide their tenants.

Price Check Services

Last but not least we all know how carefree the young can be. This means that it’s highly unlikely your kid will remember to price check the different services that they use when buying and moving into their new home. As such, you should do this for them and ensure they get the best deals on the market. Otherwise, they could end up wasting a lot of money simply by not finding the right price.

I hope this guide helps you in aiding your kid when they are moving out of your house and into their own home.


Do You React Or Respond To Your Child

Sometimes as parents, we can forget to take the time and respond in a positive way when are child needs us. We might react and say, “Stop crying right now!” or leave them to throw a fit and walk away. We have the choice to take the time, help develop that strong relationship and help your child through the situation they are struggling with. Do you react or respond to your child? Below I will share some examples, and why it is important to respond vs. react.

Do You React Or Respond To Your Child

Reacting to Situations

If your child is having an issue not listening, throwing a fit, you simply tell them to stop crying or get over what they are going through. You give a short answer and don’t try to help in the situation.

Responding to Situations 

When you respond to your child, you make sure to take the time to work through the problem and show empathy. You allow your child to share how they feel and try and help find the best solution. If your child is throwing a fit, you say come here let’s talk and offer a hug or a kiss. Allow them to feel their emotions are validated even if you think they are a bit dramatic.

Examples of React vs Respond 

React: Quit crying right now.

Respond: Come sit down and let’s calm down and tell me why you are so upset.

React: Good going you just made a huge mess on the floor.

Respond: Uh oh, we better get the broom and pick it up, we had a little accident.

React: All you are doing is whining today, I can’t stand it.

Respond: You seem to be having a rough day, why don’t you tell me what is going on, and what we can do to make this better.

When kids are little they can be pretty dramatic, but we have to remember that they are learning how to deal and control their emotions. It is up to us as parents to take the time to help them and teach them how to work through those emotions! If we simply shut them down, they are not learning valuable skills for later on. But, if we take a deep breath and help them work through it in a calm, cool and collected manner we are setting them up for success as they grow! em what they want. You just want to offer a positive spin on things. Don’t always be quick to anger and tell them to stop or their feelings don’t matter, just try to work through it.

I will admit some days are easier than others, but you will benefit your child. They will learn that they can trust you and that you care about their emotions. If your child is throwing a huge fit, tell them to talk in a regular voice and tell you what the trouble. If you have a bad day, and react instead of respond, know that it is okay, and tomorrow is a new day!

Next time a meltdown arrives, choose to respond and step away from reacting! Your child will learn from you how to deal with situations, and if we don’t take the time to teach them, they will miss out on these valuable lessons for their future!

Teaching Your Child About the Value of Money

Having children can be extremely expensive. In fact, it’s estimated that in the United States, the cost of raising a child till they are 17 is roughly $233,610. If that number isn’t enough to make you reconsider, then perhaps the sleepless nights, diaper changing and crying will make you think twice about having kids. However, it goes without saying that the parents that stick with it all the way find a new sense of purpose in life, and children can bring untold amounts of joy to your life. Sadly, the cost is still a problem and money is something that not everyone has copious amounts of spare.

These costs are unavoidable, but teaching your children about the value of money can be an extremely helpful way to cut down the costs of things such as entertainment and food. Adjusting your life to a baby can be difficult because you can’t exactly teach them much until they’re a little older, so wait until your children understand basic mathematics then apply these fun little events and activities in order to teach them how to manage money and how to be frugal.

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Search for coupons together 

With so many websites on the internet offering cheaper deals and big percentage-off signs, it’s easy to teach your children to be attracted to a bargain. Tell them all about how much money they save with deals, and browse websites like CouponSherpa.com together to not only find out about new deals and get some bargains, but to also inspire your family to save money. With some luck, your children will learn that everything comes on sale eventually, and it’s best to save money unless they absolutely need something (doesn’t happen often!).

Teach your children about budgeting 

Once your children are capable of simple mathematics, teach them the importance of budgeting. Start small by giving them a set allowance and telling them if they save the money, they can afford more things in the future. Tell them simple things, such as if they buy sweets every day, they’ll spend a set amount of money and they won’t have much money to carry over into the next week. Tell them it’ll take them x number of weeks to save up for a toy they want, and teach them to manage their allowance even if it’s just a bit.

Encourage your children to make money 

Your child might not become an entrepreneur at the age of 14 (although as seen at Entrepreneur.com it’s entirely possible!) but it’s a good idea to teach them how to actually make money and how the world works. A simple and rather cliche way of helping them make money is to set up a lemonade stand in the neighbourhood. This will teach them about what it costs to make the lemonade and the profit they make for selling them to other children and adults. This will teach them not just the value of money, but also time and how it directly translates into the money you make.

How to Adjust to Hаvіng a Nеwbоrn Bаbу

Thе аddіtіоn оf a bаbу to a family brings joy, wоndеr, аnd dеlіght. It аlѕо brіngѕ сhаngеѕ, ѕоmе аntісіраtеd — lіkе fоrmulа аnd diapers — аnd ѕоmе completely unexpected. Even thе mоѕt іnfоrmеd parents mау be tаkеn аbасk at thе hugе іmрасt thеіr tіnу bundle hаѕ оn thеіr lіvеѕ. Besides the рrоfоund affесt a newborn саn hаvе on thе parents’ relationship, thеу have to соре wіth baby’s fееdіng ѕсhеdulе, sleeping schedule, аnd оftеn, frеԛuеnt crying. In аddіtіоn, thеу’rе learning or tеѕtіng оut nеw skills: dіареrіng, bаthіng, ѕwаddlіng, burріng, mixing bоttlеѕ, rocking, soothing аnd lullаbу-ѕіngіng. And wіth еасh nеw ѕkіll comes nеw аnd реrрlеxіng questions: Iѕ thіѕ dіареr оn tight enough? What kind оf wіреѕ should I uѕе? Dо I nееd tо uѕе baby powder? How аm I supposed to wаѕh mу hаndѕ whіlе I’m holding my baby?

How to Adjust to Hаvіng a Nеwbоrn Bаbу

Adjusting tо lіfе with a nеwbоrn baby саn bе quite сhаllеngіng. But as you struggle thrоugh thе еаrlу days, keep in mind thаt billions of раrеntѕ bеfоrе уоu have fасеd ѕоmе оf thе ѕаmе dіffісultіеѕ аnd рrеvаіlеd. In this аrtісlе, wе’ll impart ѕоmе аdvісе thаt’ѕ stood the tеѕt оf tіmе іn thе fоllоwіng ѕесtіоnѕ:

Adjuѕtіng tо Parenthood

Your new rоlе as a раrеnt often means a lоt of work and vеrу lіttlе tіmе fоr relaxation оr play. Bоth are еѕѕеntіаl tо maintaining a healthy outlook and rеlаtіоnѕhір wіth уоur partner. Aѕ уоu аnd уоur partner еxреrіеnсе the growing pains thаt ассоmраnу уоur nеw lіfе wіth baby, you wіll hаvе tо allow room fоr уоur interactions with one аnоthеr tо stretch аnd change аѕ well. Mаnу parents jоіn ѕосіаl аnd/оr educational groups whоѕе fосuѕ is tо lіvе wіth a newborn. Bу іntеrасtіng with аdultѕ іn similar ѕіtuаtіоnѕ аnd еxсhаngіng anecdotes аnd іnfоrmаtіоn, уоu wіll lеаrn how оthеrѕ hаvе adapted to the сhаngеѕ іn their lives.

Cоріng with Loss оf Slеер

Intеrruрtеd ѕlеер аt nіght іѕ perhaps thе most dіffісult сhаngе tо which уоu muѕt become accustomed. Shаrіng nіght dutу wіth your partner hеlрѕ. A fаthеr саn hаndlе a bоttlе-fеd bаbу vеrу wеll аnd can gіvе a bottle оf expressed mіlk tо a breastfed bаbу. Many fаthеrѕ lооk fоrwаrd tо and еnjоу thе ԛuіеt tіmеѕ аlоnе with thеіr іnfаntѕ. At the very lеаѕt, a fаthеr can deliver thе baby, сhаngеd аnd rеаdу fоr nursing, tо a brеаѕtfееdіng mother in her bed. Sometimes thе bеѕt way tо share the night аwаkеnіngѕ іѕ tо alternate fееdіngѕ, but аt оthеr tіmеѕ a whоlе nіght оf sleep for оnе раrеnt whіlе thе other tаkеѕ over соmрlеtеlу is bеttеr. A grаndmоthеr or аnоthеr person who hаѕ come to hеlр саn аѕѕumе responsibility fоr a night nоw аnd thеn, tоо, еvеn if your аgrееmеnt is that she dоеѕ the hоuѕеwоrk аnd you саrе fоr thе bаbу.

Hоwеvеr уоu аrrаngе thіngѕ, thе fасt rеmаіnѕ уоu аrе not gеttіng еnоugh ѕlеер, аnd уоu’rе nоt gеttіng іt іn the tіmе period you’re uѕеd to. Yоu nееd еvеrу nар you саn роѕѕіblу tаkе tо mаkе up fоr ѕоmе оf the lоѕt nіght hоurѕ аnd tо restore уоur еnеrgу. Yоu may fееl уоu ѕhоuld саtсh uр on thе housework or the lаundrу when the bаbу sleeps, but уоu should rеѕіѕt this tеmрtаtіоn. Yоu nееd tо ѕlеер, оr аt lеаѕt rеѕt, whеnеvеr уоur baby sleeps, whatever thе tіmе of dау. Gо tо bеd, or settle into a соmfоrtаblе сhаіr wіth your feet up. Clоѕе your еуеѕ, brеаthе dеерlу tо release the tension уоu fееl, and сlеаr your mіnd оf every thоught еxсерt реасе аnd relaxation.

How to Adjust to Hаvіng a Nеwbоrn Bаbу

 Setting Rеаlіѕtіс Gоаlѕ for Parenthood

Onе of thе first dесіѕіоnѕ уоu may have to make to adjust уоur оwn lіfе tо уоur baby’s ѕсhеdulе is to modify уоur еxресtаtіоnѕ оf уоurѕеlf, еѕресіаllу іf уоu аrе something of a реrfесtіоnіѕt. The Super-mom who runѕ a hоmе wіth consummate еffісіеnсу ѕеrvеѕ gourmet mеаlѕ every dау, gіvеѕ ѕkіllеd care tо a brаnd-nеw іnfаnt, and іѕ аlwауѕ perfectly groomed іѕ a mуth. Trying tо mаkе thаt mуth a rеаlіtу hаѕ саuѕеd mаnу a mоthеr serious trouble.

Cut dоwn уоur еxресtаtіоnѕ оf the wау fаmіlу mеаlѕ are рrераrеd and served, too, but dо nоt skimp on nutrition. Yоu nееd a wеll-bаlаnсеd dіеt оf whоlеѕоmе foods tо ѕuррlу the energy уоur nеw rеѕроnѕіbіlіtу rеԛuіrеѕ, but уоu саn dо wіthоut fanciness аnd formality. Enjоу thе casseroles and bаkеd gооdѕ thoughtful people ѕuррlу аnd don’t fееl guіltу аbоut оссаѕіоnаllу brіngіng іn a fаѕt-fооd mеаl. Whеn you must сооk, сhооѕе simple bаѕіс fооdѕ you саn рrераrе quickly аnd еаѕіlу.

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Are you too Selfish to be a Parent?

It’s happened, you’re pregnant. Congratulations! While you may not be feeling excited about this new journey in your life, there’s lots of good that comes from becoming a parent. As a mom of three, I can tell you it’s the most exhausting yet rewarding job I have ever had and I feel blessed to have a chance to own that title of Mama. With that being said, becoming pregnant isn’t always a planned event. Birth control options have an error rate and even when taken correctly can cause an accident to happen. Basically you must know that having physical activity with your partner, even when using birth control methods, can result in pregnancy.

What happens when you find out you’re pregnant by surprise and you aren’t quite sure that you are ready? Well there are various options and there are also support groups and family who will help lead you forward. Adoption is one option many think of when faced with an accidental pregnancy, and that can provide a loving family with a child of their own. It’s great to be able to opt in for having your newborn baby adopted if you are adamant having a baby isn’t something you’re ready to take on right now. As a mom of three, obviously I never selected that option.

We all choose what’s best for ourselves and our relationship as well as future goals.

Once you find that you are pregnant and it wasn’t planned, you really need to do some soul searching and be honest with yourself about your character. Sometimes people are just too self-absorbed to take on the role of Mom or Dad and that’s okay, so as long as you can be honest with yourself and your loved one so that you don’t put them into a situation where they end up bitter and alone.

How can you Determine if Ready for Baby

While there is no one way to determine if you are ready for a baby, there are a few things you can think about and may need to change if a baby is coming into your life.

  • Does Future Plans Leave Room for Baby? You may have your future goals set out and you are ready to move forward with them. You want to be successful and life has always been just about you. If you have found yourself expecting a baby but you know in your heart that you simply aren’t ready to be as selfless as one must be to be a parent, then you may not be ready.
  • Can you Adapt for new Baby? Once you become a parent, it’s inevitable that your world will revolve around this little human being. Everything you do or say will be taken in by this little baby from day one and you will have to learn to adapt for new baby. If you are someone who can’t foresee adapting to become the best parent possible, then perhaps you are not ready for a new baby.
  • Are you Financially Ready? While most parents find that they weren’t financially ready for a baby, sometimes this is an important factor for a person. If you are deathly afraid that you will not be able to afford a new baby, then sit down to write logical reasons why you will not be able to financially support a baby. Be realistic and figure out if you can adapt finances to suit a new baby or not.
  • Are you Emotionally Ready? A baby will take on most of your strength during that first month or so of living. You will get little sleep, especially if you work outside of the home and your life will revolve around this little one. Think about your mental health, are you emotionally stable and truly capable of handling the extra mental strength a newborn will place upon you? Sit down to chat with your counselor or family to determine what’s best for you and this unborn child.

How can you Get Ready for Newborn?

In all honesty, even if you feel that you are just not ready for a baby but can adapt to this new life that will call you Mama or Daddy, then you can move on to get ready for a newborn. Make a commitment that you will be the best parent possible and put this baby as well as the other parent’s needs as a priority in your life. Prepare to know that you may have to give up some things or adjust how you do them because you are a parent to a newborn and your partner is counting on you to help not just sit back and be selfish.

Often times relationships break up when a newborn comes along because they simply didn’t discuss how the new baby will be taken care of. They didn’t discuss what each will expect from the other and they didn’t take time to financially prepare, such as purchasing diapers and other items before baby was born. If you want to have this newborn child and bring it into your life then you will have to think before you make future goals that may leave your newborn with just one parent who is pulling all of the weight and getting exhausted.

Being a parent is the most selfless act out there, and I am honored to enjoy being that person.

Once you find that you are pregnant and it wasn’t planned, you really need to do some soul searching and be honest with yourself about your character. Sometimes people are just too self-absorbed to take on the role of Mom or Dad and that’s okay, so as long as you can be honest with yourself and your loved one so that you don’t put them into a situation where they end up bitter and alone.

Read What to Expect in First Trimester and What to Expect in Second Trimester.


How to Raise Your Child to Be a Good Friend

I think we all can agree as parents, our goal is to raise well rounded children. We want them to be kind to others, have confidence, be strong, help out others, and the list can go on and on! We just want our child to succeed at all things in life!

I am going to share on tips on how to raise your child to be a good friend to others. I think this is important, because we all need friends to lean on throughout our lives! They are wonderful to have so you can create memories, and friends just make life better!  I think we all can name one person who was our best friend as a child, and all the amazing memories you had together. It is important for children to know how to connect with others.

5 Tips For Teaching Your Child to Be a Good Friend

5 Tips For Teaching Your Child to Be a Good Friend to Others

Not Be Selfish

One thing I know is, when I look for friends I want it to be a give and take relationship. You listen to me, I listen to you. Teaching your child not to be selfish but more selfless, and give to others is great. Teach them to share their toys, care for others when they are sad, cheer for family and friends when they achieve something and so on. Just make sure that they realize the world doesn’t revolve around them, and that we need to care about everyone else, as they care for you.

Self Esteem

It is important to help build up your child’s self esteem! Have a positive outlook on life, seeing the good in others, is a great quality to have. With a good self esteem it helps you be confident in your friendships and not question motives or if they truly like you!  I also like to teach children to love every person no matter what our difference are. We are all beautifully made, and that we need to be kind and loving to everyone.


This is one that they will learn as they grow. Teaching kids to be honest is something we all do as parents. As they get older, being able to admit the wrongs they do, and just being a good person. If you tell them something they don’t go and blab it. Again this one is for older kids, but you can also start young by having them be honest when they get caught doing something they probably shouldn’t.

Be a Role Model

Children really learn a lot from their mom and dad, or the adult figures in their life. Make sure you model a good friend to your friends. If you don’t really have many friends, then treat your family members well. Don’t talk bad about them, make sure you talk in a positive manner. When they see you being nice to strangers, having positive relationships with friends and family, they will begin to mimic those same characteristics.

Discuss Healthy Friendships

When your child is old enough, make sure you talk about positive and healthy friendships. That you give and take, and listen to each other. That the friendship is healthy and you lift each other up. Friendships are not about fighting or leaving feeling bad because they always say something hurtful. Make sure to share points of healthy friendships, so your kid knows what to look for.

Just make sure at the end of the day, you have that open communication with your child, so that they know if a friend isn’t being nice they can come to you. That you can help teach them, how to be a good friend, and how to find a good friend.

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