It’s April Vacation Here and This is How I’m Balancing

How does a work at home mom who has many hats survive April vacation week? Ask me in about four days.

No, seriously though, this isn’t my first school break week trying to figure out how to juggle the trio while working the multiple tasks I do from home. If you’re a work at home parent like me who needs to keep that work flowing even during school break, here are some ways I have learned to juggle the parent vs work at home life when school is out.

Tips to Juggle School Break and Work at Home

Tips to Juggle School Break and Work at Home

Remain Calm

The first tip I can give any parent who’s trying to get their client work done or blog writing completed with kids running around in the background is to remain calm. One day your kids will be grown up, out of the house and living their own life. Do not take one moment for granted and don’t let the busyness of work keep you from enjoying this happy chaos. Breath before speaking if you’re trying to get work done and the kids are simply loud as loud can be. At this moment, once you’ve remained calm, you may speak up in a kind voice to let the kids know they can be loud in a little while but you have work to do so could they either go outside or just be a bit quieter for a bit longer.

Set Expectations

I totally bombed it this April vacation and didn’t do what I usually do in the summer break season – set up a poster board with a timeline of the day. I usually set expectations for my younger two kids because one is on the autism spectrum so he does well with a visual list of times for his day to day tasks. Since I didn’t prepare, I am winging it but with expectations verbally told. I let the kids know if they give me the morning to do my work that in the late afternoon they will have me to interact with and enjoy life. Let your kids know that you expect them to have certain boundaries respected while you’re getting work done and express those in a calm, respectful manner.

Enjoy Little Moments

The trio and I have a really great relationship, while things were rocky for a bit due to a situation here, the bond is growing back like it was before all of that bad stuff happened. Currently, the trio and I are back to having a mutual respect and trust for each other. The trio knows that when I say this will happen, it will happen which wasn’t the case for the past couple of years. I remind myself to take a break come afternoon to go for a walk, sit and interact with the trio as they enjoy a YouTube video, show or game of their own. I listen to them and laugh with them. These little moments actually make it easier for me to work around their vacation days.

Be Realistic

Lastly, I have learned to be realistic with what I can accomplish during April vacation or even summer break. I have learned where my limits are, what hours of the day are best for me to get work done without the youngest needing some Mama attention and so forth. When I start setting realistic expectations my stress levels reduce and I’m able to successfully juggle both work and parenthood. The only way I could start being realistic was to stop thinking that I had to do it all and do it all in the same day. I learned that I have limits and need limits to remain happy and healthy.

Juggling your kids during any school vacation while working at home isn’t easy. As your kids get older, the juggling may be easier but not always. My kids are age 9 and up yet still that little man needs his Mama’s attention sometimes more than he did when he was a toddler. Remember that while you’re busy making a successful business online, your kids are growing up. Be certain that you maintain a proper balance between parenthood and work so that your kids don’t grow up feeling as if you put making money before them. There will always be time to make money, especially when you work from home but this moment with your kiddos won’t be around forever.

Cheers to your success and ability to remain calm, set expectations while being realistic and enjoying those little moments of childhood while they last.

 

Today is All You’re Guaranteed

I think one of the things that most of us take for granted is that tomorrow is never a guarantee. Yesterday has gone and tomorrow may come but today is always something you can count on. Living with the mentality that today should be cherished and today is all we have guaranteed to us is a positive way to live life. With all of the fears, worries and then anxiety to fuel those emotions it’s no wonder we all get caught into the trap of over thinking tomorrow. What a wonderful life we would all have if we could pause our fears of tomorrow and remember that today is all you’re guaranteed.

 

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Today Matters in Motherhood

Why am I talking about today on this blog about motherhood? Well it’s simple really, just as you should focus on today in your personal and business life, today matters in motherhood. Many moments pass you by as your children get older, grow taller and grow smarter. Today they are wondering if you can spare just one extra moment to read to them, listen to them, talk to them. Your children usually focus on today because that’s how simple life is to them. While the past can create anxiety within children, just as it does with adults, today is what most children focus on.

Take Time Today For Your Child

Just the other night my youngest child asked me if I could lay beside him just a little while longer. Usually I have tons of work to do at the end of the night and will tell him that I simply cannot for work is going to go into the late hours of the night if I continuously lay beside him for longer periods of time. After saying that to my son two nights in a row, I quickly noticed that his face looked disappointed. My poor son simply wanted just a few more minutes of my time. He didn’t want me to lay beside him hovered over that top bunk so he could stay awake and talk or be silly, he simply wanted his Mama there beside him for a minute longer.

 

As soon as the internal switch clicked and I realized that today is all you’re guaranteed, I stopped giving my youngest excuses to not lay beside him one moment longer. Now, when my son asks if I can lay beside him just a little longer, I do it. This thirty to sixty seconds of today isn’t going to push my work load out by hours, not at all. Sure I may have to work just a couple minutes longer if I lay with him hovered over that top bunk beside him as I watch his eyes drift off to sleep but today is all I know I have with him. That moment, as I lay beside him I watch my young son go from the high energy child into a peacefully sleeping child. In that moment I realize that these moments will pass me by, before I know it he will be a teenage boy who may not want that one moment longer of Mama being around.

Bittersweet Reality of Raising Children

The bittersweet reality of raising children is that you are but in their life as their caregiver for only a brief moment of time. You work hard to raise that child to be something. You encourage that child to think for himself, to be confident in who he is and then as this child becomes an adult you send them off into the world. No more moments to lie for just a few more seconds hovered over that bunk bed, watching him drift off to sleep. No more moments of him asking you to sit and read a book before bed. Every moment you could have said yes instead of no, will be gone in the blink of an eye.

Remember this story when you are laying your child down to bed this evening, think about your response when they ask for just a few more seconds of your time.

Sometimes, in a house where this child has to share his Mama with siblings, those few seconds before bed matter to him. This child gets to have just a few more seconds of his mother beside him, without the siblings interrupting or needing something and in those few seconds, you mean the world to your child because you took that moment to be there for him. Remember, you only have today so go on and live for today and be the Mama you desire to be, because we can’t get back those moments of our children wanting us to lay just a little longer. Cherish today, for it’s all you’re guaranteed.

Previous Owner of Happily Blended Launches ParentInfluence

Update: June 2017 – Brandy Ellen did sell Happily Blended in October 2016 and rebranded as MomInfluence but decided that ParentInfluence was a better fit. Announcing ParentInfluence.com by former owner of Happily Blended Media/Blog.

 

After eight years of being known as Happily Blended online, it came time to sell off that blog and brand myself into a new person. You see, I have learned a lot in the eight years I spent blogging as Brandy Ellen over at my first born blog Happily Blended but I had taken that particular blog as far as I could. With much work to be done to figure out what direction that site would go in and what I really wanted the blog to be, I just felt I outgrew the name. When asked about selling it, I was confident selling Happily Blended for a price that made sense for me would be okay.

I walked away from Happily Blended in October 2016 and focused solely on client work as well as customer service for three membership sites we developed: retweetchores.com, roundups.io and tacks.io. Each of these sites have been up and running for a bit now, but in the beginning they required a lot of my focus to work with my man on managing them. To current date, we have a bit more free time as he works to code new sites and I manage the customer service side.

This left me some time to determine what brand Brandy Ellen would be again.

Surely I could be BrandyEllen.com, after all that has been my business site where I showcase services I offer and write blog posts to showcase things I have learned along the ride of being a work at home mom. Yet, Brandy Ellen really didn’t feel like “home” to me as a blogger. I purchased a domain Pediddle.com and thought that was the one, I would soon be branded to Pediddle.com. I began to write and felt myself much like I had become with Happily Blended, not truly feeling that brand.

Researching Domains

Sitting down the other day, researching ideas for domain names and what I wanted to be as a blogger, it happened upon me that I still wanted the word Mom in my brand. I needed to have Mom be a part of my new “name”. I had all sorts of ideas and visions; I shared my thoughts with my man who then started looking up ideas for me. Within Google Chat he would send over a couple of domains that were available and when he sent over mominfluence.com … I was sold!

Mom Influence NH Mom Blog

I sat down, purchased the domain MomInfluence.com, created a logo using Canva and started writing. The blog posts came naturally to me. It was as if this brand most certainly was the right one for me. With a full launch date of January 1, 2017, I wanted to take a moment on this fine last day of December to introduce you to Brandy Ellen – the proud NH blogger at MomInfluence.com!

Prior Owner of Happily Blended brands new site - MomInfluence #mominfluence

Brandy Ellen Still Inspires

I hope to inspire you with positive blog posts that discuss the true impact a mom can have upon a child’s life. Be it positive or negative, at the end of the day, we all have our mom to thank for being in this world today. They are perhaps one of the strongest people we know, for they nurtured a baby within their womb for approximately 9 months and then let us out into this scary world as newborns.

You will quickly learn through stories and content shared on MomInfluence.com that I believe and understand that our birth mom may not always be our true light we see as the Mom Influence who touched our soul deepest, and that is okay.

All that matters is that we understand any woman can shed light into our lives as Mom and that it’s important we remember we need to be that same light for our children.