The key to positive effective parenting is to learn how to control your emotions. Raising children will bring about a whole new set of emotions that you’ve never dreamed possible. You’ll go from happy as can be to sad to disappointed throughout the lifetime of your children.
These emotions can get overwhelming. You may feel like you’ve failed. You may feel like you’re doing great. Then in the blink of the eye, everything comes falling. Emotions are something that every human being needs to learn to cope with, including parents.
Today we’re sharing some tips to help you become a more emotionally controlled parent. These tips will help you be more present in the moment and mindful of your responses during a heated situation.
Tune Into Yourself
Be aware of how you’re feeling during every moment of the day. If you want to control your emotions, then it’s going to be something you practice even during non-parenting moments. Be aware of your body language when your emotions get high.
Learn to recognize the feelings inside and physical body movements you have when you’re feeling a strong emotion. Practice pausing at the moment when a negative or difficult emotion arises. This will better help you develop new habits to respond during an emotional time.
Have Appropriate Responses
Your toddler is going to do the most off-the-wall things. During the various stages of child development, there will be normal behaviors that you need to realize are appropriate for the child’s age. When you step back to look at the situation from that perspective, something amazing happens.
You’ll soon feel more emotionally stable because you’re able to realize your child is still learning. They’re learning what’s appropriate in a social setting. They’re learning what limits they have. They’re learning all about the world and it’s on you to help positively reinforce good behavior with consequences for bad choices.
Take a Break
Another wonderful thing about being an adult is that you can choose how to respond and what you do throughout the day to ensure your cup is full. Make sure you take a break when you’re feeling overwhelmed. It’s perfectly fine to put your child in a safe space during a tantrum so you can go breathe for a few minutes and collect your thoughts.
Learning to step away from a heated situation while your child is in a safe area will help you control your emotions during the most difficult situations. Also, you’ll need to schedule “me time” throughout the week so you’re running on full. A parent running on empty is a setup for disastrous responses and emotionally out-of-control parents.
When you start controlling your emotional response to children, they start to understand proper ways to handle and respond to a situation. Remember that you’re the child’s first role model, so use our tips to develop a more positive effective parenting household where your children can thrive.