Seeing Eye To Eye With You Lil’ Girl Or Guy

The bond between a parent and a child is something which a lot of people see as unbreakable. Of course, though, like any relationship, it’s not always possible to see eye to eye with your little ones. When you’re dealing with someone who has little control over their emotions already, additional factors can make a real mess. To help you out with this, this post will be going through some of the steps which can be taken to improve your time with the little ones. Along with this, you’ll also have to do a lot of the work yourself, with time being the biggest investment you’ll have to make.

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  • Identifying The Cause

Whether your child is merely sulking or has been distant for a long time, it’s important to try to identify the cause of the issues before you try to fix them. To do this, you will have to think very logically, using your experience as a parent to help you along the way, while also considering a wide range of ideas. Below, you can find some of the different examples of the types of issues which can cause trouble in your relationship.

  • Some Examples

For a lot of parents, the addition of a child to their life is just another set of responsibilities which have to be taken care of. Of course, you love your child very much, but you also have other important things to do. For them, though, you are the most prominent figure in their life. They will emulate the things you say and do, learn from you, and yearn to spend time around you. Without this sort of interaction, it will be very easy for them to become distant with you.

Being the emotional sponges they are, a lot of kids will also pick up on the way that their parents are feeling. If there is a lot of anger or sadness in your home, your child will reflect this, and it will be hard to keep them happy. To avoid this sort of issue, any conflicts should be handled away from the kids. Along with this, though, it could also be worth trying to settle differences for good before it’s too late.

While you’re working or away from your child for other reasons, it’s often hard to think about the life they lead. Of course, though, they have a lot going on when you’re not around, and it can all impact the way they feel and act around you. Their social life, schooling, and other little stresses all make a difference. So, it’s important to be there for your child, especially as their work gets harder.

Not all relationship issues between kids and parents are down to the environment. Instead, in some cases, you may find that there’s something much deeper to your child’s turmoil. Conditions like autism and PTSD can be very hard for a child to come to terms with, often resulting in attachment difficulties and other problems in their early life. An expert is the best help you can get for this.

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  • Seeking Some Advice

It won’t always be a simple case of observing your child and using the knowledge you have to identify your issues. Instead, there could be problems which you’ll never notice, and this can make life very hard. To help you with this, you just need to look for the right advice to improve things. The internet is the very best place for this.

Over the years, loads of blogs, forums, and message boards have been started up with the aim of helping parents to see eye to eye with their children. Using their own experiences, parents share what they’ve learned, along with the tools you can use to help you. Often, a simple post on a site like this will be enough to identify your problems. But, along with this, it could also help to do some research.

The only real issue with these sorts of sites is the amount you can trust them. It can be hard to know whether or not the information you’re reading is true, as it has come from a user just like yourself. To solve this, doing a little bit of research could see you getting to the bottom of your kid’s childhood attachment problems. There are loads of specialist sites out there with the tools to help you in this area.

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  • Getting The Right Help

Finally, it’s time to think about the solid help you can get to solve your issues which are more than just articles and posts. In some cases, getting to the bottom of your issues will take a long time. To help you with this, professionals can be hired to work with everyone, providing the tools and resources to build a very happy family.

In most cases, the best help you can get will come from a therapist. By simply talking to your child about their life, using easy questions, a professional like this will be able to form a good idea of what might be bothering your child. With this, they will be able to give advice and make suggestions, giving you the power to make a difference. Of course, though, you should always read some reviews to make sure the person you choose is as good as they claim.

Along with someone to support your child, it can also be helpful to put the whole family through this sort of treatment. In most cases, issues in their environment will impact a kid more than anything else. So, it could be that the problems lie with you, and your child is merely reflecting them back at you. You won’t know until you’ve been to see someone, though. So, it’s worth getting yourselves booked in.

Hopefully, this post will be just what you need to improve the mood of the little ones in your family. There are a huge variety of different factors which can all impact this part of life, with a child’s simplified brain struggling to understand it all. Getting to the bottom of them is very important. Otherwise, it will be impossible to make a positive change.


High Functioning Autism: Gets Better with Age?

My experiences as a mom to a high functioning autistic son may be different than others. Every person has their own traits, quirks and environment that play a toll in changes that happen. This post is based solely on my own experiences of raising a son on the autism spectrum.

Teach Skills in a Logical Way vs Emotional Way

OCD, Autism, Anxiety and ODD

In Spring of 2014 we received the diagnosis that our son was High Functioning Autistic. After years of counseling, various physiologists and even risky narcotic medications we were at the end of our rope. Nothing was really working and our son didn’t fit into any specific category that anyone could pinpoint. There were some signs of Oppositional Defiance Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Autism, Bipolar and Anxiety to name a few things.  As parents, we did what we thought was best, following instructions of a counselor and psychologist. The medication seemed to be necessary and so we went with it. After multiple medications being switched and tried, our son became immune to the medication. Any medication our son was placed on seemed to stop helping him as quickly as it helped him.

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Finding the Right Psychologist

During I believe the month of May 2014 we met with a psychologist who had a son diagnosed as High Functioning Autism. This woman was amazing and opened our eyes to a few things. The most specific example that helped was that she has an adult son who is high functioning so we felt confident that she would have some answers. After witnessing some things our son did, such as lack of eye contact, rocking and the tick he has when he’s excited or overly happy, our son received the diagnosis that he is indeed High Functioning Autistic. Ever since this meeting in Spring of 2014 I have been educating myself on autism and have found that no two autistic people are alike.

Nothing Was Easy and It Shouldn’t Be

The times were difficult when our son was younger because he was not able to effectively articulate the feelings behind his actions. The toddler years and well into age 8 was the most difficult, once our son hit age 9 and now age 10 he has become more aware of his quirks and what works for him. This current year we are faced with the lovely hormonal influxes that every child goes through, combine that with autism and it can make for some challenges. I have more proud moments than not during this particular age with our son, he is more apt to speak up about something that bothers him rather than lash out in anger. He is more apt to tell me things that he is OCD about and other things that just don’t work for him. When I hear my son at age 10 express things that he has noticed about his self, I beam with pride because in my heart I know he is growing up.

Teach Skills in a Logical Way vs Emotional Way

My Heart Aches

I have many friends with children on the spectrum and my heart aches when I hear about a meltdown. One thing I have learned in this over 10 years of raising a son with autism is that life is unpredictable and until you really get to know your child’s needs and what sets him or her off, life can be challenging. With autistic people not always recognizing politically correct statements nor the feelings of another person you can often have your hands full as a parent. We were once told that our son would never be able to show empathy, to read someone’s facial expressions and to ever really comprehend human nature. I am glad to say we proved “those” people wrong!

Teach Skills in a Logical Way vs Emotional Way

Teach Skills in a Logical Way vs Emotional Way

I say this, it is false that your autistic child will never understand or express empathy, that they will never be able to read facial expressions or learn how to be socially polite. While there are many parts of the autism spectrum, I firmly believe when raising a child who is high functioning medication is not necessary. What is necessary is the willingness to change the environment, your parenting ways and what your child is around on a day to day basis. It wasn’t easy to morph life in a way that helped our son excel, and each day something new arrives I still struggle with the change. What I decided to do as a parent to a high functioning autistic child is to watch his quirks, really take a look and hear what he has to say. Take in everything about this child over the years and learn to adapt things that can be adapted, change my thinking and learn that he can be empathetic but it’s less emotional for him. Teaching empathy and compassion for our son was more about the logical side, versus an emotional response. Now that he is 10 years old and making a lot of friends, he is better able to feel in ways he couldn’t in the years past.

Finally Told Son he is High Functioning Autistic

Finally Told Son he is High Functioning Autistic

We never did tell our son, he was high functioning autistic until recently, as he does have a 504 and is old enough now where he comprehends to some level what it means. The reality is, he has been raised to think he is just an everyday boy who can be anything he wants to be and is loved unconditionally. Isn’t that what our job is as a parent? To teach all of our children that nothing has to hold them back in life? To be humble, kind, compassionate and learn to be confident with who they are. That’s how parenting has worked for me and now at age 10, I firmly feel taking this child off those risky medications was the best decision ever, it’s been three years since our son took risperidol or any other drug for autism and I wouldn’t go back to it if someone paid me.

Advice to Parents Struggling with Autism

Advice to Parents Struggling with Autism

My advice for you is this: when a professional thinks your child needs all of these medications to survive, perhaps open your mind to saying no. Take a moment to work towards changing how you respond to your child, who is around him and change the environment to suit your child’s needs. You will be shocked at what a child of any diagnosis can do when given  the chance simply by having parents who are willing to exhaust themselves in an effort to prove medications are not always the right answer.