Do You Want A Shoulder Or A Solution?
u/calmdownthingy learned that when ladies have problems, the first thing many of us are looking for is an understanding, empathetic ear followed by reassurance. We want someone to indulge in our emotions, but lots of men are naturally fixers who serve up solutions without giving us a shoulder for our feelings first.
If your partner is having a meltdown, you can help put the fire out by first asking whether they just want to vent or if they’re looking for a solution. This communication shortcut can help the conversation go as smooth as butter, regardless of gender. You can thank us for this pro life tip later.