The Truth About Having A Second Child

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When you have a baby for the first time, there’s no doubt it’s a life-changing experience – but you haven’t seen anything yet! Your second child is a vastly different experience, in more ways than one, and there are some surprising truths that no one else seems to tell you. So, if you are expecting your second child, or planning on making one, read on! Here are some interesting things that many of us moms-of-multiples often find out – after the event.

The pregnancy

Remember the constant worry, concern, and plan-making that occurred during your first pregnancy? The chances are, you left no stone unturned in your quest to enjoy the perfect pregnancy, whether it was taking part in yoga classes or massaging your tummy with all kinds of strange-smelling oils. But for the second child, it’s going to be a different story. It’s not that you don’t want to do the same things while carrying your next baby – it’s merely because you don’t have time. Child number one will be on your case 24/7, and the chances are that you won’t even have time to notice you are expecting until well into your third trimester.

The Truth About Having A Second Child

The Extras

Think you have a house covered in children’s gear right now? Wait until you double that amount. There will be a few things you need to replace or buy new, for a start. Baby seats for the car, are a good example, as are double strollers. Unless your eldest is already walking, you could do worse than click here to get in-depth information on double umbrella strollers or head to your local baby store for some demonstrations. There will be mountains of clothes to deal with, too, as well as toys, games, and the gazillion baby accessories we all get given as gifts. If you want to know how much/how little storage your home really has, get ready to find out.

The real mom

You are a mom as soon as you give birth to your first child, of course. But you’ll really know what it means to be a parent when you have your second. There will be no catching up on sleep when your baby has their daytime naps – Baby Number One will need entertaining. There will, in the future, be a time when you feel like less of a mom and more of a boxing referee. And all those offers of babysitting services to give you an evening break will dry up as soon as your friends realize they have two munchkins to deal with now. And packing up to go anywhere – even to the local grocery store – is going to require more planning and equipment than you need for a week’s hiking in the Rockies. In short, if you had a smooth experience bringing up your first, your second could well end up causing you a world of pain!

I hope this doesn’t sound like I’m putting you off! Having multiple children is a beautiful experience and totally worth it – but it can often take a lot of work to pull off!

 

Tips for Teaching Children About Stranger Danger

With it being summer and kids out of school, it is a perfect time to teach your child about stranger danger, if you haven’t already! Sadly, we live in a world that is full of hate, crimes, kidnappings and more, it is is vital that we teach our children to stay away from strangers. Children are innocent and trusting, and it is up to us to teach them that not everyone will be kind to them!

It can be a little hard teaching them the difference on who is safe and who isn’t but with these tips below it might help you out. The definition of stranger danger, is someone your child doesn’t know. Children need to know that if they don’t know them, to stay away. Now, a police officer, firefighter, they don’t know them, but they need to know they are safe people to talk to if they see.

Tips for Teaching Children About Stranger Danger

Always Have a Buddy 

Make sure your child always has someone with them when they are outside. This can be a friend that they go to the park with, or play outside together, even an older sibling. Just make sure that they always stay close with their friend and never go into a strangers house, or talk to strangers when they are out. If someone approaches them, to leave. If you leave them for a minute at a ball game, say stay close to Uncle Jimmy. Make sure you always have a friend or family member that is an adult that your child can go to if you are not right there.

No, Go Yell, Tell

This is a part of the National Crime Prevention Tips, for teaching children about strangers. By telling the stranger, “NO”, and then run away from the situation to a parent or adult they may know near by. As your child is running, tell them to  yell for help as they are doing this. Once they find an adult they know, tell the parent what happened. This is very simple, and I suggest role playing this with your child so they can learn and remember in case a situation arises.

Follow Gut Feelings 

Teach your child how important it is, if someone makes you uncomfortable get away as fast as possible. If they are asking you if you want candy, or to come into their home, those are all bad signs. Teach them that if their gut is telling them to get away, always follow it and run away. If someone does make your child feel uncomfortable make sure they know to come and tell you right away.

Stay Close Together 

When you are out at a parade or walking around at the mall, teach your child to hold your hand and stay close. This will help keep them a lot safer, and you can physically feel them holding your hand. Try to always stay on top of where they are, when you are in stores, so that they don’t wander off and have a stranger approach them.

Make sure to sit down and talk to your child about stranger danger, and act out scenarios by role playing, so they can get the feel of what can be a negative situation. Show them and teach them how to get out and react fast, because it can truly save their life!