You may remember your parents telling you when you were growing up that “children should be seen and not heard”. It was probably what they were told growing up and thought it was appropriate to pass it on to us. Do parents really not get how messed up this statement is?
Telling your child that their purpose in life is to be seen or not heard discredits their feelings entirely. Children are always honest with their thoughts and feelings. Telling your child not to express themselves is telling them that you don’t care about hearing their thoughts and feelings which can lead to mental issues later on.